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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 377112"><p>I think you need to be careful about not generalizing your experience with one difficult child (and your positive experience with your own kids) and apply to everyone on this board. Kids are different. Their problems are different. Sometimes there is a myriad of reasons they are behaving the way they are. There is a lot of experience on this board and a lot of good ideas but it is not a place to diagnose each others kids or judge or tell people the only solution based on your own experience.</p><p></p><p>ODD is one diagnosis..... which several here have had experience with. It is not automatically CD nor does it automatically mean a kid is a sociopath. Yes it can move in that direction but it is not a given.</p><p></p><p>I agree that insisting a kid (over 18) leave the home is often the best course of action it is not always the only course or even always the right course. And as a parent it is a process to get to the point of being willing to do that. I have done it and may do it again at some point. The thing is even when that is the right course of action it is also important if possible to keep communication lines open. As hard as it is there are some people who go through hell, put their parents through hell and eventually make it through the other side. To me tough love has two parts to it, being willing to stop enabling a kid but also bening willing to let them know you still love them. It can be a hard balance to find. And it is much easier to think about being tough on someone who is not your own kid.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 377112"] I think you need to be careful about not generalizing your experience with one difficult child (and your positive experience with your own kids) and apply to everyone on this board. Kids are different. Their problems are different. Sometimes there is a myriad of reasons they are behaving the way they are. There is a lot of experience on this board and a lot of good ideas but it is not a place to diagnose each others kids or judge or tell people the only solution based on your own experience. ODD is one diagnosis..... which several here have had experience with. It is not automatically CD nor does it automatically mean a kid is a sociopath. Yes it can move in that direction but it is not a given. I agree that insisting a kid (over 18) leave the home is often the best course of action it is not always the only course or even always the right course. And as a parent it is a process to get to the point of being willing to do that. I have done it and may do it again at some point. The thing is even when that is the right course of action it is also important if possible to keep communication lines open. As hard as it is there are some people who go through hell, put their parents through hell and eventually make it through the other side. To me tough love has two parts to it, being willing to stop enabling a kid but also bening willing to let them know you still love them. It can be a hard balance to find. And it is much easier to think about being tough on someone who is not your own kid. [/QUOTE]
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