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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 137914" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>Witz -- You should not have to convince yourself that you're entitled to your feelings. Nor should your children feel they have the right to verbally abuse you. My daughter went through serious shock when I finally realized that. That was when I quit doing for her. I quit making excuses. I quit feeling guilty. Instead, I told her this was my home and unless she was paying 50&#37; of all bills, it was my rules. If she didn't like the rules, she certainly knew where the door was. Further, if she felt the need to call me names or be physical, she could do so in her room into her pillow where I couldn't hear it. If I heard it, there would be access to car, cable or computer until I was good and ready. After the third time of her calling me names for no reason and her losing all household privileges, she quit. Granted, she will call me names when she is angry and I truly understand that and let it go. I do remind her in a calm tone that the words aren't appropriate and that will usually do the trick now. However, first I had to learn I had the right to demand at least outward respect.</p><p> </p><p>As the military says, you don't salute the man, you salute the rank. Well, in this house, I have the rank. She doesn't.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 137914, member: 3626"] Witz -- You should not have to convince yourself that you're entitled to your feelings. Nor should your children feel they have the right to verbally abuse you. My daughter went through serious shock when I finally realized that. That was when I quit doing for her. I quit making excuses. I quit feeling guilty. Instead, I told her this was my home and unless she was paying 50% of all bills, it was my rules. If she didn't like the rules, she certainly knew where the door was. Further, if she felt the need to call me names or be physical, she could do so in her room into her pillow where I couldn't hear it. If I heard it, there would be access to car, cable or computer until I was good and ready. After the third time of her calling me names for no reason and her losing all household privileges, she quit. Granted, she will call me names when she is angry and I truly understand that and let it go. I do remind her in a calm tone that the words aren't appropriate and that will usually do the trick now. However, first I had to learn I had the right to demand at least outward respect. As the military says, you don't salute the man, you salute the rank. Well, in this house, I have the rank. She doesn't. [/QUOTE]
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