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<blockquote data-quote="mstang67chic" data-source="post: 310517" data-attributes="member: 2459"><p>RM is right....it's nuts that you can become a foster parent with little background checks and support. When husband and I took our classes to get our foster license, we went through a PRIVATE foster/adoption agency. We knew going in that we would be adopting as did the agency but as I understood it, we went through the same process that anyone would have. We took our classes, we had reams of paperwork to fill out, we had to obtain a legal background check from our local police, and I THINK....don't remember for sure...we did a federal background check also. The home study.....we had to have so many fire extinguishers, smoke alarms, an emergency escap plan/map on difficult child's door even though we hadn't even HEARD of him yet. We put cabinet locks in the kitchen and bathroom on cabinets that contained cleaning chemicals or OTC medications. We had to have complete and current shot/medical records on the pets.....they looked into every corner of our lives. </p><p></p><p>Once we got difficult child as a foster, we had in home visits from the case worker 3 times a month and calls weekly. We had to get written permission to take him out of state, we had to provide so much clothing for him AND provide receipts to prove it. We were taking some classes even after we got him and some of the other people taking them were fosters through the state. They were AMAZED that we had so much contact with our case worker. They only saw theirs if there was court or a REALLY major problem. Otherwise? They were pretty much on their own.</p><p></p><p>On the flip side though....there was one time before the adoption went through that difficult child had me at my wits end and I spanked him. It wasn't hard and it was only 3 swats but I turned myself in for it. Our private case worker was honest with me and said she didn't know what would happen. The state case workers? They told us that "We can see how he would get you to that point. Don't do it again." That was it. No note in the file, no written warning....nothing. Granted, I didn't WANT any of that to happen but I was amazed. I think in difficult child's case, he was the last kid out of this family to be placed, they were VERY familiar with the family and just wanted his file closed.</p><p></p><p>The fosters in Dude's case though.....oooohhhhhhh...they've got it coming. I think between CNL, Dude's PO and you.....hehehehehehe...their little empire is going to come crashing down. I'd just make sure they don't know where Dude is so there isn't any retaliation. I wouldn't put it past them. Yeah, I'm worried about you but I KNOW they don't have a clue who they are messing with. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/devil.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":devil:" title="devil :devil:" data-shortname=":devil:" /></p><p></p><p>Tell Dude that if I lived closer, he would be more than welcome to camp out in MY yard....heck....the garage has an attic he could fix up into an efficiency if he wanted. He could hang out with Cloe and Chester and maybe help kick difficult child's behind. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/bigsmile.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":bigsmile:" title="big smile :bigsmile:" data-shortname=":bigsmile:" /> He probably wouldn't like it though. We get snow and it's COOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOLD. A lot colder than he's used to down there.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mstang67chic, post: 310517, member: 2459"] RM is right....it's nuts that you can become a foster parent with little background checks and support. When husband and I took our classes to get our foster license, we went through a PRIVATE foster/adoption agency. We knew going in that we would be adopting as did the agency but as I understood it, we went through the same process that anyone would have. We took our classes, we had reams of paperwork to fill out, we had to obtain a legal background check from our local police, and I THINK....don't remember for sure...we did a federal background check also. The home study.....we had to have so many fire extinguishers, smoke alarms, an emergency escap plan/map on difficult child's door even though we hadn't even HEARD of him yet. We put cabinet locks in the kitchen and bathroom on cabinets that contained cleaning chemicals or OTC medications. We had to have complete and current shot/medical records on the pets.....they looked into every corner of our lives. Once we got difficult child as a foster, we had in home visits from the case worker 3 times a month and calls weekly. We had to get written permission to take him out of state, we had to provide so much clothing for him AND provide receipts to prove it. We were taking some classes even after we got him and some of the other people taking them were fosters through the state. They were AMAZED that we had so much contact with our case worker. They only saw theirs if there was court or a REALLY major problem. Otherwise? They were pretty much on their own. On the flip side though....there was one time before the adoption went through that difficult child had me at my wits end and I spanked him. It wasn't hard and it was only 3 swats but I turned myself in for it. Our private case worker was honest with me and said she didn't know what would happen. The state case workers? They told us that "We can see how he would get you to that point. Don't do it again." That was it. No note in the file, no written warning....nothing. Granted, I didn't WANT any of that to happen but I was amazed. I think in difficult child's case, he was the last kid out of this family to be placed, they were VERY familiar with the family and just wanted his file closed. The fosters in Dude's case though.....oooohhhhhhh...they've got it coming. I think between CNL, Dude's PO and you.....hehehehehehe...their little empire is going to come crashing down. I'd just make sure they don't know where Dude is so there isn't any retaliation. I wouldn't put it past them. Yeah, I'm worried about you but I KNOW they don't have a clue who they are messing with. :devil: Tell Dude that if I lived closer, he would be more than welcome to camp out in MY yard....heck....the garage has an attic he could fix up into an efficiency if he wanted. He could hang out with Cloe and Chester and maybe help kick difficult child's behind. :bigsmile: He probably wouldn't like it though. We get snow and it's COOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOLD. A lot colder than he's used to down there. [/QUOTE]
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