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<blockquote data-quote="busywend" data-source="post: 133439" data-attributes="member: 391"><p>BBK, this is what happened with me and my difficult child. I dug my feet in just as much as she did, because - well I was the parent and she was going to do as I said! </p><p></p><p>It NEVER worked that way. It does not mean she calls the shots. It means you have to get creative with your parenting and be prepared. Try to make things fun - even when you are not liking her at the moment or in a mood of your own (we all have them, ya know!). To me this was the hardest thing. But, it has made such a difference. </p><p>Be ready for whatever she can deal out. Always start out taking a deep breathe. Try to envision where it is going. </p><p></p><p>Not digging your feet in, will help so much. Just imagine if you told her you would be willing to let her pack the skirt up so she could change at school as long as she promised to change back before getting on the bus to head home. </p><p>You could phone the teacher and give her a heads up. That way she can plan that when Tink asks she can tell her 'after blank she can change'. It can work. It does not mean they are getting their way all the time. They are learning to compromise and seeing that people around them like to do things that make her happy. </p><p></p><p>You really don't care if she wears the skirt at school. You just don't want her outside with it on.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="busywend, post: 133439, member: 391"] BBK, this is what happened with me and my difficult child. I dug my feet in just as much as she did, because - well I was the parent and she was going to do as I said! It NEVER worked that way. It does not mean she calls the shots. It means you have to get creative with your parenting and be prepared. Try to make things fun - even when you are not liking her at the moment or in a mood of your own (we all have them, ya know!). To me this was the hardest thing. But, it has made such a difference. Be ready for whatever she can deal out. Always start out taking a deep breathe. Try to envision where it is going. Not digging your feet in, will help so much. Just imagine if you told her you would be willing to let her pack the skirt up so she could change at school as long as she promised to change back before getting on the bus to head home. You could phone the teacher and give her a heads up. That way she can plan that when Tink asks she can tell her 'after blank she can change'. It can work. It does not mean they are getting their way all the time. They are learning to compromise and seeing that people around them like to do things that make her happy. You really don't care if she wears the skirt at school. You just don't want her outside with it on. [/QUOTE]
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