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<blockquote data-quote="WSM" data-source="post: 295877" data-attributes="member: 5169"><p>It's a roller coaster. He's flipflopped again.</p><p> </p><p>Last night he was collecting up all the police reports, psychiatric assessments, old numbers for probation officers, counselors, and schools. Most of which is damning to difficult child. He asked for my log. He's resigned that the matter is out of his hands and difficult child is probably going to be sent away. He wants it to be Residential Treatment Center (RTC) not juvvy (as do I). He says he feels terrible about it, that he's such a bad father the state is taking him away--and it's especially hard because he fought so hard in court for custody when difficult child was 3 and a half. He's worried they'll think he's a bad father and take stepdaughter as well and he'd be devastated. </p><p> </p><p>He also said it seems pretty clear that the CPS lady is going to recommend removal from the home (I said, "You'll get him back, it's probably not going to be for the rest of his childhood. Only 4-6 months or at most 18 months, and there are visit, phone calls, holidays", but as husband says, that's not the point, and I guess he's right.). He also said it was clear that therapist's opinion will play a role in what happens, and to quote husband: "And you know what his opinion will be", ie, difficult child is very, very disturbed and needs immediate and intensive treatment and should be in a residential facility. husband is making no attempt to convince anyone that the therapist believes that some of this is not difficult child's doing, like he tried at the beginning of the summer.</p><p> </p><p>We are going to Orlando tonight and will spend tonight and Saturday and Sunday morning doing Orlando fun things. At 2 we will pick up difficult child from camp, watch his grad ceremonies, and take him home. The other kids are going to be returning in a different car since they don't want to go to the ceremony and would rather spend Sunday in a Disney park. That means husband, difficult child and I will be driving home alone. husband intends to hand the police report and delinquency petition to difficult child and ask him how he wants to handle his problem. And we will have the 3 hour drive home to discuss it with him. </p><p> </p><p>Monday morning is court.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WSM, post: 295877, member: 5169"] It's a roller coaster. He's flipflopped again. Last night he was collecting up all the police reports, psychiatric assessments, old numbers for probation officers, counselors, and schools. Most of which is damning to difficult child. He asked for my log. He's resigned that the matter is out of his hands and difficult child is probably going to be sent away. He wants it to be Residential Treatment Center (RTC) not juvvy (as do I). He says he feels terrible about it, that he's such a bad father the state is taking him away--and it's especially hard because he fought so hard in court for custody when difficult child was 3 and a half. He's worried they'll think he's a bad father and take stepdaughter as well and he'd be devastated. He also said it seems pretty clear that the CPS lady is going to recommend removal from the home (I said, "You'll get him back, it's probably not going to be for the rest of his childhood. Only 4-6 months or at most 18 months, and there are visit, phone calls, holidays", but as husband says, that's not the point, and I guess he's right.). He also said it was clear that therapist's opinion will play a role in what happens, and to quote husband: "And you know what his opinion will be", ie, difficult child is very, very disturbed and needs immediate and intensive treatment and should be in a residential facility. husband is making no attempt to convince anyone that the therapist believes that some of this is not difficult child's doing, like he tried at the beginning of the summer. We are going to Orlando tonight and will spend tonight and Saturday and Sunday morning doing Orlando fun things. At 2 we will pick up difficult child from camp, watch his grad ceremonies, and take him home. The other kids are going to be returning in a different car since they don't want to go to the ceremony and would rather spend Sunday in a Disney park. That means husband, difficult child and I will be driving home alone. husband intends to hand the police report and delinquency petition to difficult child and ask him how he wants to handle his problem. And we will have the 3 hour drive home to discuss it with him. Monday morning is court. [/QUOTE]
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