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Were you depressed ? + pregnant years ago? Discussion.
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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 345670" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Mom2oddson - </p><p></p><p>First I'm glad you're here. 2nd? I spent my ENTIRE childhood, teen years and a lot of my adult life worrying about if people didn't like me, or if I was around people didn't want me around. In my case? I was right. (lol) I had a hard time fitting in most of my life. (can you believe that? HUH) I mean I was an ugly duckling, I had strict parents, and I liked the underdog crowd. Then I got married to a family that absolutely hated me. I didn't fit there either, and top that off with spousal abuse, and a child that seems to hate me? It's like - (insert word that even Orbit wouldn't clean up) come on when do you finally fit? Eventually somewhere along the way I lost the ugly duckling thing, figured out I liked being alone, but not lonely and found a place where I truly did not care what people thought. I got into therapy, and the last 10 years of my life I've spent figuring out I'm not so bad after all. I do have something to offer, we all do. Not just me - all of us. You learn something from everyone you meet. Most of us just don't take the time to listen or have the patience to wait and hear what it is we're supposed to learn from someone else. We're human - we get so busy in me world - it's hard to take time and figure out - YOU world. So to answer your question - yes, you make perfect sense. And I'm sure in your case you were liked by someone....because years later and I'm talking 25 or more I STILL get people that when I'm home come up to me and hug me out of the blue and say the nicest things about how I was always such a nice person to them. - I was nice to everyone - but never felt it back. THAT's when it hit me ---there were MORE of us - than there were of them. We just didn't know how to connect without getting persecuted. But we grew up to be quite lovely people with compassion, understanding and pretty observant - and really tolerant (to a point) kind of people. </p><p></p><p>That's the trade off. I think it's a good one. You have a lot of depth - you should share it more often. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p><p>Hugs & Love </p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 345670, member: 4964"] Mom2oddson - First I'm glad you're here. 2nd? I spent my ENTIRE childhood, teen years and a lot of my adult life worrying about if people didn't like me, or if I was around people didn't want me around. In my case? I was right. (lol) I had a hard time fitting in most of my life. (can you believe that? HUH) I mean I was an ugly duckling, I had strict parents, and I liked the underdog crowd. Then I got married to a family that absolutely hated me. I didn't fit there either, and top that off with spousal abuse, and a child that seems to hate me? It's like - (insert word that even Orbit wouldn't clean up) come on when do you finally fit? Eventually somewhere along the way I lost the ugly duckling thing, figured out I liked being alone, but not lonely and found a place where I truly did not care what people thought. I got into therapy, and the last 10 years of my life I've spent figuring out I'm not so bad after all. I do have something to offer, we all do. Not just me - all of us. You learn something from everyone you meet. Most of us just don't take the time to listen or have the patience to wait and hear what it is we're supposed to learn from someone else. We're human - we get so busy in me world - it's hard to take time and figure out - YOU world. So to answer your question - yes, you make perfect sense. And I'm sure in your case you were liked by someone....because years later and I'm talking 25 or more I STILL get people that when I'm home come up to me and hug me out of the blue and say the nicest things about how I was always such a nice person to them. - I was nice to everyone - but never felt it back. THAT's when it hit me ---there were MORE of us - than there were of them. We just didn't know how to connect without getting persecuted. But we grew up to be quite lovely people with compassion, understanding and pretty observant - and really tolerant (to a point) kind of people. That's the trade off. I think it's a good one. You have a lot of depth - you should share it more often. :winking: Hugs & Love Star [/QUOTE]
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