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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 575195" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>HR, yikes, it sounds bad. Do not lose sight of the big picture here, you did a very brave thing in leaving where you were, and the good news is that this is temporary. Can you push the leaving date ahead with your other brother and move quicker? Perhaps if your other brother knew the circumstances of how you are living, he would come and get you sooner? Do you have an attorney who can get you immediate child support/spousal support so at least you have some money? </p><p></p><p>Hang in there, it will change. My experience is that when you make a massive change like you are, there is usually a period of transition, an adjustment period where you are in a sort of limbo. This will pass, you will get to your other brothers soon and you can settle in there. Is that your intention, of settling in there, gaining some financial base and then moving into your own place? </p><p></p><p>Someone once told me this analogy for growth...........it's like a bird who wants to fly higher and in order to do so he has to jump from one thermal to a higher thermal to gain altitude. Once he makes that courageous jump out of the thermal, he is thrown around in between by all the wind and weather, it's a risk and he has little control of anything until he lands in the next thermal. But once he arrives, he's where he wanted to be, he's gained altitude, he is liberated from the confines of the former residence. Right now, you're flying around in between thermals! It's dramatic and feels unsafe, but you will land in your new residence soon. </p><p></p><p>The kind of courage you displayed to protect your youngest son and leave an environment which was filled with denial has it's rewards, however, sometimes you have to go through a period of transition before you feel them. I think you're doing a wonderful job and this period does suck, but hang tough, things will get better, things will smooth out and you'll look back and this period will simply be a tiny blip on your radar screen. (((HUGS)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 575195, member: 13542"] HR, yikes, it sounds bad. Do not lose sight of the big picture here, you did a very brave thing in leaving where you were, and the good news is that this is temporary. Can you push the leaving date ahead with your other brother and move quicker? Perhaps if your other brother knew the circumstances of how you are living, he would come and get you sooner? Do you have an attorney who can get you immediate child support/spousal support so at least you have some money? Hang in there, it will change. My experience is that when you make a massive change like you are, there is usually a period of transition, an adjustment period where you are in a sort of limbo. This will pass, you will get to your other brothers soon and you can settle in there. Is that your intention, of settling in there, gaining some financial base and then moving into your own place? Someone once told me this analogy for growth...........it's like a bird who wants to fly higher and in order to do so he has to jump from one thermal to a higher thermal to gain altitude. Once he makes that courageous jump out of the thermal, he is thrown around in between by all the wind and weather, it's a risk and he has little control of anything until he lands in the next thermal. But once he arrives, he's where he wanted to be, he's gained altitude, he is liberated from the confines of the former residence. Right now, you're flying around in between thermals! It's dramatic and feels unsafe, but you will land in your new residence soon. The kind of courage you displayed to protect your youngest son and leave an environment which was filled with denial has it's rewards, however, sometimes you have to go through a period of transition before you feel them. I think you're doing a wonderful job and this period does suck, but hang tough, things will get better, things will smooth out and you'll look back and this period will simply be a tiny blip on your radar screen. (((HUGS))) [/QUOTE]
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