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<blockquote data-quote="Bunny" data-source="post: 383871"><p>Hugs to you. My 11 year old difficult child is exactly the same way. We took him over the summer to a neuropsychologist to have him fully evaluated. When he heard me on the phone making the appointment he went into a full screaming tantrum that lasted the rest of the night and went into the next day. He swore that if I made him go he was going to go back to being as bad as he was before I started having him see a therpist and that it would be all my fault. Oh, really? If you feel that he needs to be evaluated by the psychiatrist, then take him. difficult child tried to play divide and conquer between husband and myself and when he realized that it was not going to work, it got worse. The day of the evaluation came, though, and he went quietly and cooperated. I was prepared for him to be awful, and in a way I was hoping that he would be so that the psychiatrist could see exactly what I was talking about. difficult child does what your son does. It's never, ever his fault. It's always someone else who gets him into trouble and we blame him because we hate him. We started him on Celexa for anxiety and it has helped. He will never behave like easy child does, which is something that I have had to come to terms with, but the medications make him easier to handle when he feels like things are spinning out of control.</p><p> </p><p>Have the neuropsychologist evaluation done and see if your pediatrician can recommend a therapist that will work with him. If you can figure out why he is screaming and throwing fits, maybe you and he together can figure out different ways to handle things. If you know that getting his homework done each day is a trigger for trouble, find another way to deal with the battle. A family counselor can help you with that. For my son, it's a control thing. He wants to think that he is the one calling the shots. So, we give him choices. Will you take your shower tonight or tomorrow morning? Do you want to wear the red shirt or the blue shirt? He still has to take shower and get dressed, but he making the decisions about when, which is a big thing for my difficult child.</p><p> </p><p>I know how you feel. Get the evaluations done and then go from there.</p><p> </p><p>Pam</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Bunny, post: 383871"] Hugs to you. My 11 year old difficult child is exactly the same way. We took him over the summer to a neuropsychologist to have him fully evaluated. When he heard me on the phone making the appointment he went into a full screaming tantrum that lasted the rest of the night and went into the next day. He swore that if I made him go he was going to go back to being as bad as he was before I started having him see a therpist and that it would be all my fault. Oh, really? If you feel that he needs to be evaluated by the psychiatrist, then take him. difficult child tried to play divide and conquer between husband and myself and when he realized that it was not going to work, it got worse. The day of the evaluation came, though, and he went quietly and cooperated. I was prepared for him to be awful, and in a way I was hoping that he would be so that the psychiatrist could see exactly what I was talking about. difficult child does what your son does. It's never, ever his fault. It's always someone else who gets him into trouble and we blame him because we hate him. We started him on Celexa for anxiety and it has helped. He will never behave like easy child does, which is something that I have had to come to terms with, but the medications make him easier to handle when he feels like things are spinning out of control. Have the neuropsychologist evaluation done and see if your pediatrician can recommend a therapist that will work with him. If you can figure out why he is screaming and throwing fits, maybe you and he together can figure out different ways to handle things. If you know that getting his homework done each day is a trigger for trouble, find another way to deal with the battle. A family counselor can help you with that. For my son, it's a control thing. He wants to think that he is the one calling the shots. So, we give him choices. Will you take your shower tonight or tomorrow morning? Do you want to wear the red shirt or the blue shirt? He still has to take shower and get dressed, but he making the decisions about when, which is a big thing for my difficult child. I know how you feel. Get the evaluations done and then go from there. Pam [/QUOTE]
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