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What are some good, reliable tests for Asperger's?
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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 543069" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>Terry--</p><p></p><p>First big (((hugs))). Both of our kids could have "alphabet soup" for a diagnosis right now - so I understand where you are coming from.</p><p></p><p>I feel like you are saying "OK - just give me ONE thing that I can do to APPROACH this that makes some kind of sense!". </p><p></p><p> Based on my experience, I would say that you need to create a nice space for YOURSELF right now (I don't mean a nice room...I mean SPACE - space AWAY from all the turmoil and stress you are facing.) You need to nourish your own soul for a little bit.</p><p></p><p>Next - even without a diagnosis, you see the areas where difficult child has difficulty. As far as you are able - you need to create a "success-only" environment for him. You need to eliminate some of the "I'm going to trust him to...." stuff. This means you wouldn't even THINK of letting him "watch the bacon" unless you absolutely, positively already knew that he would do the correct thing. If you don't know for SURE that he will do the correct thing? Then don't let him be in that position.</p><p></p><p>I know that means that in many ways, you will be treating him as though he is much younger than his chronological age - but maybe that's where he still is developmentally and maybe he still needs the kind of parental support and supervision that you would give a much younger child?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 543069, member: 6546"] Terry-- First big (((hugs))). Both of our kids could have "alphabet soup" for a diagnosis right now - so I understand where you are coming from. I feel like you are saying "OK - just give me ONE thing that I can do to APPROACH this that makes some kind of sense!". Based on my experience, I would say that you need to create a nice space for YOURSELF right now (I don't mean a nice room...I mean SPACE - space AWAY from all the turmoil and stress you are facing.) You need to nourish your own soul for a little bit. Next - even without a diagnosis, you see the areas where difficult child has difficulty. As far as you are able - you need to create a "success-only" environment for him. You need to eliminate some of the "I'm going to trust him to...." stuff. This means you wouldn't even THINK of letting him "watch the bacon" unless you absolutely, positively already knew that he would do the correct thing. If you don't know for SURE that he will do the correct thing? Then don't let him be in that position. I know that means that in many ways, you will be treating him as though he is much younger than his chronological age - but maybe that's where he still is developmentally and maybe he still needs the kind of parental support and supervision that you would give a much younger child? [/QUOTE]
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