Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
What distance is safe?!
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Albatross" data-source="post: 623456" data-attributes="member: 17720"><p>I wanted to give an update. As background, he is in a halfway house after leaving rehab and being unreachable for over a month. He has a job that (barely) pays his expenses at the halfway house and got himself food stamps and a free cell phone (once we cut off his phone). The last time I heard from him, he was thinking about quitting his job and joining the service but said he was going to have to lie to get in because of his stay in rehab.</p><p></p><p>Yesterday he called us on a new number to see if we wanted to visit for the afternoon. We went over to see him for a couple of hours. He is still gaining weight, still clear-eyed and engaged and seemed excited about his future, which I haven't seen in...a REALLY long time.</p><p></p><p>He was proud to tell us about his new cell phone number, a plan that he is actually paying for and a cell phone that he bought for himself. He played his new favorite song on his phone for us ("It's OK, I have unlimited data!") He told us about a situation at work, where he got "yelled at" for something he didn't do and fumed about it and wanted to quit, but he decided to talk to his boss about it and they worked it out. At lunch he offered to pay the tip and joked, "I always have lots of singles (dollar bills) for AA...that way the girls know I'm not homeless." He said he has found an AA group that he likes, all people around his age, and says he feels like he really fits in there. </p><p></p><p>He was still talking about trying to join the service and said the worst they could do if he got caught lying was kick him out. I didn't want to raise any of his rebellion instincts, but I did tell him that I thought maybe they could do more than that and that I thought being honest is always a good choice. Then I let it go.</p><p></p><p>This is the first time he told us a little bit about what happened when he was gone for that month. It wasn't easy to hear, how scared and trapped he felt, but hopefully those memories will give him pause the next time he has a hard choice to make. </p><p></p><p>I told him to please let us know what he decided to do as far as enlisting and that we were so very proud of him for all of the positive changes he's made in his life. Hope I didn't scare him off with that last part!</p><p></p><p>Not hanging onto anything other than today, because we have all been through that "express elevator to Hell" experience before. But it is very good to see him having a good day, today.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Albatross, post: 623456, member: 17720"] I wanted to give an update. As background, he is in a halfway house after leaving rehab and being unreachable for over a month. He has a job that (barely) pays his expenses at the halfway house and got himself food stamps and a free cell phone (once we cut off his phone). The last time I heard from him, he was thinking about quitting his job and joining the service but said he was going to have to lie to get in because of his stay in rehab. Yesterday he called us on a new number to see if we wanted to visit for the afternoon. We went over to see him for a couple of hours. He is still gaining weight, still clear-eyed and engaged and seemed excited about his future, which I haven't seen in...a REALLY long time. He was proud to tell us about his new cell phone number, a plan that he is actually paying for and a cell phone that he bought for himself. He played his new favorite song on his phone for us ("It's OK, I have unlimited data!") He told us about a situation at work, where he got "yelled at" for something he didn't do and fumed about it and wanted to quit, but he decided to talk to his boss about it and they worked it out. At lunch he offered to pay the tip and joked, "I always have lots of singles (dollar bills) for AA...that way the girls know I'm not homeless." He said he has found an AA group that he likes, all people around his age, and says he feels like he really fits in there. He was still talking about trying to join the service and said the worst they could do if he got caught lying was kick him out. I didn't want to raise any of his rebellion instincts, but I did tell him that I thought maybe they could do more than that and that I thought being honest is always a good choice. Then I let it go. This is the first time he told us a little bit about what happened when he was gone for that month. It wasn't easy to hear, how scared and trapped he felt, but hopefully those memories will give him pause the next time he has a hard choice to make. I told him to please let us know what he decided to do as far as enlisting and that we were so very proud of him for all of the positive changes he's made in his life. Hope I didn't scare him off with that last part! Not hanging onto anything other than today, because we have all been through that "express elevator to Hell" experience before. But it is very good to see him having a good day, today. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
What distance is safe?!
Top