My DS 1 is continuing to have issues. He is seeing a therapist now and hopefully next week I can make an appointment with the neuro psychiatric. I have read The Explosive Child and I am trying to use CPS for some of the issues, but there are sooooo many moments where I just want to hang my head and cry in defeat. Tonight he was eating at the table and asked me for a wet paper towel. I gave it to him. I was also sitting at the table working at my lap top. He wiped the jelly from his arm and then swiped it onto my keyboard. There was NOTHING precipitating this, all was calm. I told him to stop and he looked me directly in the eye and swiped the jelly onto my keyboard again. I closed the lap top, put it away and turned to him. I asked him why he did it even after I asked him not to. He said "Because" jumps up and goes to living room, where he proceeds to leap at his 2 yr old brother who was sitting on the couch relaxing. DS 1 wanted to give him a hug, but pretty much launched himself at his little brother and knocked him square on the chin with his head. I walked in, picked up DS 2, who was now crying hysterically and told DS 1 he needed to go take his shower, that I didn't want him out here with us right now since he obviously couldn't control himself. He yelled "it was an accident, you don't have to be mean" and shoved me as hard as he could while I was still holding DS 2. I am trying to remain calm and this is just an example of the ongoing button pushing I get from DS 1. He looks me directly in the eye with this hard stare and will do whatever he wants. Like he is daring me to do something about it. I feel like I am stretched so thin and I am becoming worried that one day I will snap Time outs don't work, he will say "no" and plant his feet ready for battle, or stay just out of reach, so unless you want to tackle him and wrestle him in to time out, it's a no go. Taking things doesn't work either. I remove tv, video games etc and he just says I don't care. I understand the CPS, but these are not problems to talk about prior to the action. How could I know he would smear jelly on my lap top. When I talk to him about these things, he just responds with "because" or " I don't know" or "i just felt like it." His teacher sent a note home yesterday saying that he argued with her about everything, was very disruptive, took the juice box she gave him and squirted it into the trash pretending to pee. When she asked him to return to his seat, he just said "no, I don't want to" every other child went back to there seat except him. He just does whatever he feels like. He really doesn't care, just like he says. He could care less about any one else's feelings. He demands I do things for him, like get him a drink or a toy. When i say he needs to ask nicely without an attitude he will scream relentlessly at me at the top of his lungs. Sometimes these outbursts will becoming crying hysterical fits. Just becaue he can't ask nicely. I don't always need to hear please, but you can't boss me around either. So right now he was messing with the printer. I asked him nicely to leave it alone so he won't mess up the settings (it's wireless). He just looked at me and kept pressing buttons. If I touch him, he will immediately become violent and physical with me. How do I get him away from the printer???