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What do you do when a sibling continues to bother you & she is a sick person?(long)
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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 289684" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>A point here you need to consider - your dad can choose to let this upset him or he can choose to detach. You can't choose for him. So let him know what oters have said, that you may love your sister but as things currently stand you simply need to not be in communication because she seems to misinterpret everything you say or do. And that you feel she shouldn't be trying to draw him into taking sides 9which is pretty much what it boils down to.</p><p></p><p>Instead, I agree - remove her from your Facebook. Instead you can say, "I do have one sister of whom I am very fond but for privacy reasons (hers) I choose to not list her name or other details here."</p><p>Be as non-committal as you possibly can, and maybe even print out a screen dump and give your father acopy so he can see what you have on your Facebook (for when she calls).</p><p></p><p>by the way, how did she know about your Facebook page? Did you send a link to her or is she tracking you online?</p><p></p><p>I seriously suggest you do not contact her except where she contacts you (nicely) and requests a reply. She sounds a lot like a whackjob colleague of mine from writing class who constantly sends out inflammatory emails or emotionally blackmailing glurge or chain letters, then gets really angry if we dare to respond. The same person would telephone me to whine about all the people in her life who were being mean to her and would often hark back to her early childhood to include all those who had ever hurt her in her litany of woes; the phone would ring and I would check the clock then the TV guide to see which of her favourite TV shows had just finished! She had a list of people she would ring. If person A on her list was unavailable she would ring person B, and so on. We were being used to stroke her ego plus alleviate her boredom. Outside thta, we have no purpose in her life.</p><p></p><p>You have more important things in your life than to worry about tiptoing around someone else's fragile ego. Your father should be emotionally strong enough to let it all wash over and past hi without taking her rubbish on board. If he DOES take her rubbish on board, maybe that explains why she does it - she has been enabled to be a pain all her life.</p><p></p><p>In which case - tell him that it is HIS choice to be upset (or not) by her antics. Keep him in the loop but make sure you have much more interesting stuff to talk to him about, that does not involve your sister in any way whatsoever.</p><p></p><p>It's annoying, but it can be dealt with; generally by extreme and total avoidance. </p><p></p><p>You don't have to be Amish for shunning to work.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 289684, member: 1991"] A point here you need to consider - your dad can choose to let this upset him or he can choose to detach. You can't choose for him. So let him know what oters have said, that you may love your sister but as things currently stand you simply need to not be in communication because she seems to misinterpret everything you say or do. And that you feel she shouldn't be trying to draw him into taking sides 9which is pretty much what it boils down to. Instead, I agree - remove her from your Facebook. Instead you can say, "I do have one sister of whom I am very fond but for privacy reasons (hers) I choose to not list her name or other details here." Be as non-committal as you possibly can, and maybe even print out a screen dump and give your father acopy so he can see what you have on your Facebook (for when she calls). by the way, how did she know about your Facebook page? Did you send a link to her or is she tracking you online? I seriously suggest you do not contact her except where she contacts you (nicely) and requests a reply. She sounds a lot like a whackjob colleague of mine from writing class who constantly sends out inflammatory emails or emotionally blackmailing glurge or chain letters, then gets really angry if we dare to respond. The same person would telephone me to whine about all the people in her life who were being mean to her and would often hark back to her early childhood to include all those who had ever hurt her in her litany of woes; the phone would ring and I would check the clock then the TV guide to see which of her favourite TV shows had just finished! She had a list of people she would ring. If person A on her list was unavailable she would ring person B, and so on. We were being used to stroke her ego plus alleviate her boredom. Outside thta, we have no purpose in her life. You have more important things in your life than to worry about tiptoing around someone else's fragile ego. Your father should be emotionally strong enough to let it all wash over and past hi without taking her rubbish on board. If he DOES take her rubbish on board, maybe that explains why she does it - she has been enabled to be a pain all her life. In which case - tell him that it is HIS choice to be upset (or not) by her antics. Keep him in the loop but make sure you have much more interesting stuff to talk to him about, that does not involve your sister in any way whatsoever. It's annoying, but it can be dealt with; generally by extreme and total avoidance. You don't have to be Amish for shunning to work. Marg [/QUOTE]
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