BusynMember
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Ok, many of you know about my sister who has contacted the police about ten times regarding me. The first time, I would say some people would call it valid. She refused to talk to me, and at the time I loved her very much and didn't know why, and she wouldn't tell me why so I went to her house. When she wouldn't let me in I took off my tennis shoe and threw it at her door. I may have said I wouldn't leave until she came out to talk to me. She called the cops. Valid? Maybe. I wouldn't have called the cops, but that's me.
The other nine or so times were for absurd reasons, getting more and more absurd as time passes. The last time she called the cops because I left a message on her answering machine telling her that I'd had a CAT scan. That was it. She called the cops because she didn't want to know that. Um, ok. The cop (we only have a few) is a friend of ours and thought it was a really dumb reason to call him. She said, "Well, you didn't hear his conversation with me." Um, well, he IS a cop and has to treat every call seriously. Anyhoooooo......
I put up a Facebook to see if I could contact old friends, and I used my maiden name, which embarasses her. Our maiden name is Rubnich. It isn't pretty and I got teased mercilessly about it, but, hey, it's how my old classmates knew me. I got called Grubnich. Rubberneck. Also, it is a Jewish name. My sister has built a persona in her town and tells nobody either her maiden name or that she was brought up Jewish and it embarasses her. I did list her as my sister because she IS my sister and I thought maybe it would get me a few more hits and "aha, I know her!" I didn't write anything about her and my account is on private now, but it wasn't before today. My father calls...
Sister called elderly dad to whine that I was posting about her online. I guess she's afraid to call the cops because she thinks I'll contact all of her friends and tell them the horrible Rubnich/Jewish secret (she actually has much worse secrets than that, but this is the one that scares her the most). I would never do it, but I did threaten to do it if she ever called the cops again, so she called our 85 year old father who is suffering with a huge headache and ratted on me and he felt compelled to call me and ask, "Are you posting about Sister?"
Poor man. I told him the truth and told him to lie down and take it easy and wrote scathing letter to Sister about leaving me and Dad alone or I WOULD contact her friends (scary threat, huh?). She wrote back and said, "Go ahead. All my friends no (her spelling) that you're nuts." Ok, so why did she upset my Dad then?
How would you deal with this? I truly do want her to leave my poor 85 year old father alone. This is sister/sister garbage--petty at best, and she is trying to control me through him. It really upset me today. I don't care what she SAID about me, I care that she upset our father. Any creative suggestions to shut her up? There probably aren't any, but I thought I'd try. You ARE a bunch of very creative ladies, since you've all dealt with difficult children. Hey, I'm not saying I'm perfect or innocent in this fallout, but I have tried very hard to stay away from her. I don't call the cops or my father about her.
I'm steaming mad . She'll kill our dad yet with her stupidity.
The other nine or so times were for absurd reasons, getting more and more absurd as time passes. The last time she called the cops because I left a message on her answering machine telling her that I'd had a CAT scan. That was it. She called the cops because she didn't want to know that. Um, ok. The cop (we only have a few) is a friend of ours and thought it was a really dumb reason to call him. She said, "Well, you didn't hear his conversation with me." Um, well, he IS a cop and has to treat every call seriously. Anyhoooooo......
I put up a Facebook to see if I could contact old friends, and I used my maiden name, which embarasses her. Our maiden name is Rubnich. It isn't pretty and I got teased mercilessly about it, but, hey, it's how my old classmates knew me. I got called Grubnich. Rubberneck. Also, it is a Jewish name. My sister has built a persona in her town and tells nobody either her maiden name or that she was brought up Jewish and it embarasses her. I did list her as my sister because she IS my sister and I thought maybe it would get me a few more hits and "aha, I know her!" I didn't write anything about her and my account is on private now, but it wasn't before today. My father calls...
Sister called elderly dad to whine that I was posting about her online. I guess she's afraid to call the cops because she thinks I'll contact all of her friends and tell them the horrible Rubnich/Jewish secret (she actually has much worse secrets than that, but this is the one that scares her the most). I would never do it, but I did threaten to do it if she ever called the cops again, so she called our 85 year old father who is suffering with a huge headache and ratted on me and he felt compelled to call me and ask, "Are you posting about Sister?"
Poor man. I told him the truth and told him to lie down and take it easy and wrote scathing letter to Sister about leaving me and Dad alone or I WOULD contact her friends (scary threat, huh?). She wrote back and said, "Go ahead. All my friends no (her spelling) that you're nuts." Ok, so why did she upset my Dad then?
How would you deal with this? I truly do want her to leave my poor 85 year old father alone. This is sister/sister garbage--petty at best, and she is trying to control me through him. It really upset me today. I don't care what she SAID about me, I care that she upset our father. Any creative suggestions to shut her up? There probably aren't any, but I thought I'd try. You ARE a bunch of very creative ladies, since you've all dealt with difficult children. Hey, I'm not saying I'm perfect or innocent in this fallout, but I have tried very hard to stay away from her. I don't call the cops or my father about her.
I'm steaming mad . She'll kill our dad yet with her stupidity.