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<blockquote data-quote="busywend" data-source="post: 178480" data-attributes="member: 391"><p>TM, with girls this is really, really common. They tend to have a BFF one week and next week it is a different girl that is their BFF. </p><p> </p><p>It is most important to teach Duckie what you have told her now. She does not have to be friends with people that are mean to her. She should think about what being a friend means to her and try to be that same kind of friend. If she can not find that in a 'friend' they really are not meant to be one of her friends. I agree with the 'you do not have to be friends with everyone, but you do have to be nice and polite to everyone' theme, that is what I tried to use most often with difficult child. </p><p> </p><p>Do not be surprised if the bully ends up being a friend next week and an enemy again the following week. I am sure it gets worse as they get older. </p><p> </p><p>I actually worked very hard to make sure difficult child was never in an odd number situation. It seemed to me if there was an even number these problems did not exist. It was like someone was there counting up partners and if anyone was left at the end that one became the target. It always ended up being difficult child. Then later in life she became the bully. She did not necessarily have friends on her side, but she was so angry by that time.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="busywend, post: 178480, member: 391"] TM, with girls this is really, really common. They tend to have a BFF one week and next week it is a different girl that is their BFF. It is most important to teach Duckie what you have told her now. She does not have to be friends with people that are mean to her. She should think about what being a friend means to her and try to be that same kind of friend. If she can not find that in a 'friend' they really are not meant to be one of her friends. I agree with the 'you do not have to be friends with everyone, but you do have to be nice and polite to everyone' theme, that is what I tried to use most often with difficult child. Do not be surprised if the bully ends up being a friend next week and an enemy again the following week. I am sure it gets worse as they get older. I actually worked very hard to make sure difficult child was never in an odd number situation. It seemed to me if there was an even number these problems did not exist. It was like someone was there counting up partners and if anyone was left at the end that one became the target. It always ended up being difficult child. Then later in life she became the bully. She did not necessarily have friends on her side, but she was so angry by that time. [/QUOTE]
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