the shoe is on the other foot? Duckie struggled greatly with verbally aggressive and bullying behavior in pre-k and early kindergarten. I'm pleased to report that while she still has her childish spats with other kids, she wouldn't be considered a bully any longer by others. She's actually a pretty nice kid. She is, however, having a problem with my bff's daughter. "A" plays nicely with Duckie when it's one-on-one. The problems start when other girls are around. "A" isolates Duckie, taunts her and generally targets her for bullying. We went to the graduation party of "A's" older sister yesterday and she had a group of young kids pointing and laughing at Duckie. Duckie was humiliated and I'm heartbroken. She seemed to bounce back during the rest of the party, though seemed to hang back from engaging with "A" (I don't blame her). She confided in me that she's very confused by "A" being so mean to her when "A" says she's a friend. I explained that she's not acting like a good friend, and neither were the other kids there (including Duckie's bff ). I know I need to address this with my bff, but I don't know how to bring it up without sounding harsh or judgemental. I told Duckie she doesn't have to play with "A" if she doesn't want to because I won't make her. I told her nobody has the right to humiliate her. I told her it was okay to tell someone that is bullying people that she doesn't have time for mean people and walk away. I named a few dozen other kids that are always (or at least almost always) nice to her and want to be friends with her. I told her she doesn't have to like everyone, but she needs to behave with kindness and consideration. But she's still hurt.