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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 287603" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>If she is as superficial as she sounds and she wants "stuff" and she likes drama and she likes guys hitting on her so boyfriend can see how desirable she is then this is a situation of her choosing. You can comment on her present situation but the underlying problem is festering inside. </p><p>If boyfriend was upset enough to call her dad then I suspect he realized that he made a huge mistake. </p><p></p><p>Almost everyone thinks that their anger at seeing someone hurt would make them willing to go to jail to revenge that atrocity but we seldom act on it.Fortunately. Can you imagine Witz revenging her daughter's slap, going to jail or even just court and L returning to boyfriend? Uh, I don't think so. She is smarter than that and her own life has more meaning. There is culpability in L that she has to realize and answer for. She is not being held against her will and it does not appear that he has done this before. She isn't in a cycle of domestic violence. She is in a cycle of over drama and manipulation from what I can tell. </p><p></p><p>Physical violence is abhorrent but we still think beating children is ok? yet a slap is reason for vigilante justice? It doesn't make sense. It's part of the reason that I chose to not use physical violence with my children although my temper and my nature is intense enough to go that route. It can't go both ways. I can't say that no one should ever slap me yet I can slap my kids? It's an incredibly bizarre way to teach children.</p><p></p><p>Anyhow, in my humble opinion, L is not being enticed to stay. She stays because she likes stuff. This is a bigger disappointment to me if I were her mom.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 287603, member: 3"] If she is as superficial as she sounds and she wants "stuff" and she likes drama and she likes guys hitting on her so boyfriend can see how desirable she is then this is a situation of her choosing. You can comment on her present situation but the underlying problem is festering inside. If boyfriend was upset enough to call her dad then I suspect he realized that he made a huge mistake. Almost everyone thinks that their anger at seeing someone hurt would make them willing to go to jail to revenge that atrocity but we seldom act on it.Fortunately. Can you imagine Witz revenging her daughter's slap, going to jail or even just court and L returning to boyfriend? Uh, I don't think so. She is smarter than that and her own life has more meaning. There is culpability in L that she has to realize and answer for. She is not being held against her will and it does not appear that he has done this before. She isn't in a cycle of domestic violence. She is in a cycle of over drama and manipulation from what I can tell. Physical violence is abhorrent but we still think beating children is ok? yet a slap is reason for vigilante justice? It doesn't make sense. It's part of the reason that I chose to not use physical violence with my children although my temper and my nature is intense enough to go that route. It can't go both ways. I can't say that no one should ever slap me yet I can slap my kids? It's an incredibly bizarre way to teach children. Anyhow, in my humble opinion, L is not being enticed to stay. She stays because she likes stuff. This is a bigger disappointment to me if I were her mom. [/QUOTE]
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