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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 401356" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>DF....</p><p></p><p>I will tell you about one time in particular.</p><p></p><p>Tony had been out of town working in VA. I know exactly how long it takes to get from where he was working to our house because where he was working was like 10 minutes from our son's house. He had told me they were only going to be working that day until noon and coming home. Okay...work till noon...approximately 6 hour drive...get home no later than 7 right? Even if traffic was bad and they had stopped to cash checks...be home no later than 8!</p><p></p><p>8 comes...no Tony...9 comes...no Tony! I call his bosses wife. No she hasnt heard from them. I call the motel. Yes they checked out at noon. I just wondered in case they stayed another day. Nope. 10 comes no Tony...Im pacing, Im ******. 11 comes no Tony. He walks in the door around 11:30 and I let it fly. </p><p></p><p>Where in the H have you been? What the F were you doing? You can get your Fing S and get the F out of here because I dont want you to F the h live in my f blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah.</p><p></p><p>I probably went on for at least half an hour telling him he could do everything bad and he was everything bad and where he could put everything. I screamed, I cussed, I threw things, I put about 3 new holes in my walls. </p><p></p><p>Why was he late? They worked until 5. </p><p></p><p>Of course, when I started the screaming...he started screaming back at me. So we had a screaming fit at the front door at midnight. </p><p></p><p>It never occurred to me for well over a year that I wasnt MAD that he was late, I was SCARED that something had happened to him and he was out there hurt or something. Hence the fact that we now have two cell phones. Now I get MAD if he forgets to take his cell phone with him...lol. </p><p></p><p>We worked out that my feelings of abandonment were at the root of a lot of my anger and fear issues. Unfortunately...he forgets this A LOT! I think he needs a huge refresher course.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 401356, member: 1514"] DF.... I will tell you about one time in particular. Tony had been out of town working in VA. I know exactly how long it takes to get from where he was working to our house because where he was working was like 10 minutes from our son's house. He had told me they were only going to be working that day until noon and coming home. Okay...work till noon...approximately 6 hour drive...get home no later than 7 right? Even if traffic was bad and they had stopped to cash checks...be home no later than 8! 8 comes...no Tony...9 comes...no Tony! I call his bosses wife. No she hasnt heard from them. I call the motel. Yes they checked out at noon. I just wondered in case they stayed another day. Nope. 10 comes no Tony...Im pacing, Im ******. 11 comes no Tony. He walks in the door around 11:30 and I let it fly. Where in the H have you been? What the F were you doing? You can get your Fing S and get the F out of here because I dont want you to F the h live in my f blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah. I probably went on for at least half an hour telling him he could do everything bad and he was everything bad and where he could put everything. I screamed, I cussed, I threw things, I put about 3 new holes in my walls. Why was he late? They worked until 5. Of course, when I started the screaming...he started screaming back at me. So we had a screaming fit at the front door at midnight. It never occurred to me for well over a year that I wasnt MAD that he was late, I was SCARED that something had happened to him and he was out there hurt or something. Hence the fact that we now have two cell phones. Now I get MAD if he forgets to take his cell phone with him...lol. We worked out that my feelings of abandonment were at the root of a lot of my anger and fear issues. Unfortunately...he forgets this A LOT! I think he needs a huge refresher course. [/QUOTE]
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