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What do you know about Borderline Personality Disorder?
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<blockquote data-quote="whatamess" data-source="post: 401361" data-attributes="member: 7664"><p>I will speak to my experience in that if people (school district) have done things dishonestly in the past, that is not forgotten. It's not necessarily a grudge, just more knowing that 'they' now have one more tick mark in the case that makes them 'bad' in my mind. Every misstep in the future adds to the 'bad' pile and I have a very hard time thinking about HOW a truly GOOD person/entity can do bad things. And that is a hallmark of this disorder. There is great difficulty reconciling bad actions by good people- you are either good or bad, not both! When the scale has tipped over to BAD, then any apology is looked at as deception- you are not really sorry or you wouldn't have done these things in the first place. When Borderline (BPD) gets to an intense level with a person it can turn into paranoia and all missteps by the 'bad' person feel intentional whether they are intentional or not and no amount of explaining or apologizing is going to erase that bad pile that has built up- it is 'evidence' of the badness and will not be forgotten by the Borderline (BPD). Intense. But true.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="whatamess, post: 401361, member: 7664"] I will speak to my experience in that if people (school district) have done things dishonestly in the past, that is not forgotten. It's not necessarily a grudge, just more knowing that 'they' now have one more tick mark in the case that makes them 'bad' in my mind. Every misstep in the future adds to the 'bad' pile and I have a very hard time thinking about HOW a truly GOOD person/entity can do bad things. And that is a hallmark of this disorder. There is great difficulty reconciling bad actions by good people- you are either good or bad, not both! When the scale has tipped over to BAD, then any apology is looked at as deception- you are not really sorry or you wouldn't have done these things in the first place. When Borderline (BPD) gets to an intense level with a person it can turn into paranoia and all missteps by the 'bad' person feel intentional whether they are intentional or not and no amount of explaining or apologizing is going to erase that bad pile that has built up- it is 'evidence' of the badness and will not be forgotten by the Borderline (BPD). Intense. But true. [/QUOTE]
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