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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 123521" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>I would again remind her that they were not YOUR answers, but hers. And that all you can do is help, not tell her the answers.</p><p></p><p>It makes me wonder - when she does homework round her mother, is she just telling her the answers?</p><p></p><p>I would keep reminding her - "this is YOUR work, not mine." </p><p></p><p>I've had easy child scream at me in the past over homework. I was trying to help her, she was getting more upset over it by the minute, once she started yelling at me I walked away and refused to even be in the same room until she calmed down and admitted that she wanted me to help.</p><p></p><p>We used to have to sit for hours with difficult child 1, as well, when he had similar homework to do. He seemed totally incapable of summarising text or extracting the important from the unimportant. He was not able to apply value judgements to the text he was reading. he was a fluent reader, he just didn't understand what he was reading. I remember entire weekends when husband & I took turns sitting with difficult child 1 in the spare room, while he worked constantly. difficult child 1 was not allowed out of that room except for toilet and meals (and bedtime). A task which would have taken easy child half an hour, took the entire weekend.</p><p>That's when you know something is not right.</p><p></p><p>With this girl - what happens if you read it aloud to her? (I'm not telling you to do this, just asking). Does she still have trouble working out the answer? In which case, I think there is something wrong with how she is processing the information. This goes way beyond merely not reading well. Teaching her to read will not fix the problem.</p><p></p><p>What worked for difficult child 1 - mind mapping (aka clustering). I've written about this before. It's a really good technique for ANYONE who has a writing task to do, or something to think about.</p><p>You begin with a blank page. You write the key phase or word somewhere in the middle of the page. And you don't even have to use words - a picture will do. Or in this case, you could write, "Chinese Dynasty - why so long?"</p><p>You then think of things about that dynasty, characteristics. Write down each one as you think of it (or as she thinks of it). Some of these will not be the answer. They will be dead ends. Some will be correct, or at least part of an answer.</p><p>Once you've written down everything you think is related to the topic, you begin joining the dots, showing any connectedness between these thoughts. And in this situation - the ideas that have the most connections are likely to be the correct ones.</p><p></p><p>A mind map takes the thought processes away from pure mental effort and puts them down on paper you can look at and go over. It makes for less mental strain.</p><p>Sometimes the connections are three-dimensional - that is a complexity that you can't get, with a linear essay plan. And I think this is easier than an essay plan.</p><p></p><p>Next time she has a similar assignment, show her this. In the meantime, you play with it, see what you can do with it. Maybe you're writing a letter to someone and you want to get your thoughts together - write "news" in the middle of the page, then write down the points you want to tell this person. Then join the dots, so you're not jumping from this point to that one and back again.</p><p></p><p>I hope this can help.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 123521, member: 1991"] I would again remind her that they were not YOUR answers, but hers. And that all you can do is help, not tell her the answers. It makes me wonder - when she does homework round her mother, is she just telling her the answers? I would keep reminding her - "this is YOUR work, not mine." I've had easy child scream at me in the past over homework. I was trying to help her, she was getting more upset over it by the minute, once she started yelling at me I walked away and refused to even be in the same room until she calmed down and admitted that she wanted me to help. We used to have to sit for hours with difficult child 1, as well, when he had similar homework to do. He seemed totally incapable of summarising text or extracting the important from the unimportant. He was not able to apply value judgements to the text he was reading. he was a fluent reader, he just didn't understand what he was reading. I remember entire weekends when husband & I took turns sitting with difficult child 1 in the spare room, while he worked constantly. difficult child 1 was not allowed out of that room except for toilet and meals (and bedtime). A task which would have taken easy child half an hour, took the entire weekend. That's when you know something is not right. With this girl - what happens if you read it aloud to her? (I'm not telling you to do this, just asking). Does she still have trouble working out the answer? In which case, I think there is something wrong with how she is processing the information. This goes way beyond merely not reading well. Teaching her to read will not fix the problem. What worked for difficult child 1 - mind mapping (aka clustering). I've written about this before. It's a really good technique for ANYONE who has a writing task to do, or something to think about. You begin with a blank page. You write the key phase or word somewhere in the middle of the page. And you don't even have to use words - a picture will do. Or in this case, you could write, "Chinese Dynasty - why so long?" You then think of things about that dynasty, characteristics. Write down each one as you think of it (or as she thinks of it). Some of these will not be the answer. They will be dead ends. Some will be correct, or at least part of an answer. Once you've written down everything you think is related to the topic, you begin joining the dots, showing any connectedness between these thoughts. And in this situation - the ideas that have the most connections are likely to be the correct ones. A mind map takes the thought processes away from pure mental effort and puts them down on paper you can look at and go over. It makes for less mental strain. Sometimes the connections are three-dimensional - that is a complexity that you can't get, with a linear essay plan. And I think this is easier than an essay plan. Next time she has a similar assignment, show her this. In the meantime, you play with it, see what you can do with it. Maybe you're writing a letter to someone and you want to get your thoughts together - write "news" in the middle of the page, then write down the points you want to tell this person. Then join the dots, so you're not jumping from this point to that one and back again. I hope this can help. Marg [/QUOTE]
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