Mikey
Psycho Gorilla Dad
Okay, I know many of you have been there done that, so I don't know how to respond to this. Maybe a Godsend? Maybe psychosis? I dunno....
Got a call last night from McWeedy's Graphic Design teacher. She seems to have a personal commitment to try and help him succeed in spite of himself. Since she's not a 'rent, that gives her a chance to speak with him in ways that wife and I can't.
She called about other issues, but she wanted to tell me that McW said a curious thing after sharing with her about his current "plight": He said "Maybe what I need is to go to jail for six or eight months, get my head on straight, then come back and try again."
The reason that caught my ear was because he said the same thing to wife last week after he ran away and then 'fessed up about being arrested and failing school. He even used almost the exact same words.
And I think back to about two years ago, when McW first came clean about his real lifestyle. At that time, he nearly begged to go to rehab because he said he "couldn't do it on his own". For many reasons involving family dynamics, that didn't happen.
Finally, about two weeks ago (before the latest outbreak of McWeedy drama), his teacher and I were talking about his big project at school (getting ready for his art display at Starbucks). She went on to cautiously ask how he was doing, and then politely offered this opinion: McWeedy is screaming for help in the only way he knows how, or in the only way his twisted reality will allow him to.
I guess I'm wondering if that's true. Now, to be fair, I've often made the offer to send McW to rehab, and then to an EGBS, halfway/sober house, or some other facility to help him reintegrate without the pressure of his friends and previous lifestyle. As of last night, I got the same answer: <BLEEP> NO!
So, what do 'yall think? His teacher thinks he's setting himself up to be forced into a situation where he has to get help, and can't run away. I guess that could be true, since he seems to have no willpower at all to resist his friends, Weedette, or his current lifestyle choices. And if he were in jail, he could quietly get the help he needs without "losing face" (I've heard that nothing angers a group of users worse than one of their own trying to quit using).
Is it possible that he knows he needs help, knows that he needs it badly, but can't bring himself to ask for it - or accept it when offered? If so, I don't think jail will give him what he wants, but I don't know how to offer him a better alternative that he'll even consider.
Geez, things didn't seem to be this complicated when I was a simple college drunk. Or maybe I'm just getting old.....
Thoughts?
Mikey
Got a call last night from McWeedy's Graphic Design teacher. She seems to have a personal commitment to try and help him succeed in spite of himself. Since she's not a 'rent, that gives her a chance to speak with him in ways that wife and I can't.
She called about other issues, but she wanted to tell me that McW said a curious thing after sharing with her about his current "plight": He said "Maybe what I need is to go to jail for six or eight months, get my head on straight, then come back and try again."
The reason that caught my ear was because he said the same thing to wife last week after he ran away and then 'fessed up about being arrested and failing school. He even used almost the exact same words.
And I think back to about two years ago, when McW first came clean about his real lifestyle. At that time, he nearly begged to go to rehab because he said he "couldn't do it on his own". For many reasons involving family dynamics, that didn't happen.
Finally, about two weeks ago (before the latest outbreak of McWeedy drama), his teacher and I were talking about his big project at school (getting ready for his art display at Starbucks). She went on to cautiously ask how he was doing, and then politely offered this opinion: McWeedy is screaming for help in the only way he knows how, or in the only way his twisted reality will allow him to.
I guess I'm wondering if that's true. Now, to be fair, I've often made the offer to send McW to rehab, and then to an EGBS, halfway/sober house, or some other facility to help him reintegrate without the pressure of his friends and previous lifestyle. As of last night, I got the same answer: <BLEEP> NO!
So, what do 'yall think? His teacher thinks he's setting himself up to be forced into a situation where he has to get help, and can't run away. I guess that could be true, since he seems to have no willpower at all to resist his friends, Weedette, or his current lifestyle choices. And if he were in jail, he could quietly get the help he needs without "losing face" (I've heard that nothing angers a group of users worse than one of their own trying to quit using).
Is it possible that he knows he needs help, knows that he needs it badly, but can't bring himself to ask for it - or accept it when offered? If so, I don't think jail will give him what he wants, but I don't know how to offer him a better alternative that he'll even consider.
Geez, things didn't seem to be this complicated when I was a simple college drunk. Or maybe I'm just getting old.....
Thoughts?
Mikey