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What kind of fool am I?
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<blockquote data-quote="ck1" data-source="post: 67250" data-attributes="member: 3767"><p>Nola: I don't have direct experience with this, my son has never run away, however, we may be well on our way with dealing with a difficult child refusing to live by our rules, we'll see after this placement. </p><p></p><p>Anyway, in all of the reading I've done and talking with parents who have parented difficult teens, the thing they had in common was that their teen did not make the decision to turn their life around until they had no one to depend on but themselves. I pray that I have the strength to do this, to help my son, if and when the time comes.</p><p></p><p>To really help your son, you need to stop enabling him by letting him fall back on you. He needs to learn natural consequences, which are to live by your rules or don't live there at all. He's already shown he's not going to live by your rules, he had his chance and chose not to take advantage of it.</p><p></p><p>You've already shown that you're willing and able to make the hard choices (when he was sentenced to the 15 days) so you need to follow through to show him you're serious and he does not have a place in your home as long as he continues doing what he wants to "be happy". </p><p></p><p>You are not a fool in anyway whatsoever! You desperately love your son and want to help him turn his life around, but for whatever reason, he's not ready yet. Until then, there's nothing you can do. It seems you've done all you can and now you're out of options, other than turning him over to the juvenile justice, his actions and behavior lead to this, not you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ck1, post: 67250, member: 3767"] Nola: I don't have direct experience with this, my son has never run away, however, we may be well on our way with dealing with a difficult child refusing to live by our rules, we'll see after this placement. Anyway, in all of the reading I've done and talking with parents who have parented difficult teens, the thing they had in common was that their teen did not make the decision to turn their life around until they had no one to depend on but themselves. I pray that I have the strength to do this, to help my son, if and when the time comes. To really help your son, you need to stop enabling him by letting him fall back on you. He needs to learn natural consequences, which are to live by your rules or don't live there at all. He's already shown he's not going to live by your rules, he had his chance and chose not to take advantage of it. You've already shown that you're willing and able to make the hard choices (when he was sentenced to the 15 days) so you need to follow through to show him you're serious and he does not have a place in your home as long as he continues doing what he wants to "be happy". You are not a fool in anyway whatsoever! You desperately love your son and want to help him turn his life around, but for whatever reason, he's not ready yet. Until then, there's nothing you can do. It seems you've done all you can and now you're out of options, other than turning him over to the juvenile justice, his actions and behavior lead to this, not you. [/QUOTE]
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