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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 347587" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Actually, that is also what I would do. I would also send that message via text and find a way to keep a permanent unimpeachable copy (ie a copy that clearly is not doctored or mocked up by you after he collapses from malnutrition). Emails tend to be good for this.</p><p></p><p>If he wants money and not food, ten he will be scathing about tihs.</p><p></p><p>Also be careful - don't buy stuff he can on-sell. Get the can opener from an op-shop, for example. Or buy tinned food with ring-pulls. </p><p></p><p>Our church has a food drive every so often, organised by a bloke who works with homeless people. He gave us clear instructions - nothing too gourmet, aim for a balance (tubes of sweetened condensed milk, for example, a great for coffee and tea). And ALWAYS tinned food has to have a ring-pull, because homeless people don't always have a can opener.</p><p></p><p>Baked beans are great. Tinned truffles are not. Tins of soup that you don't have to water down are best - they often don't have a container to heat soup up in. I know it sounds gross, but most of the time they will eat the tinned contents without heating it up. So bear that in mind.</p><p></p><p>Forget buying tinned pet food - it is the most expensive way to buy food, all those stories of pensioners who live on a diet of Whiskas is pure media BS & beat-up. I can buy food for the family much cheaper per serve, than tinned cat food. </p><p></p><p>Fresh fruit & vegetables - great, he can't pawn that. But not too much at one time, he has to carry it and eat it before it goes off.</p><p></p><p>Other than that - nothing. As others have said (you included), HE chose to leave and not live by your rules.</p><p></p><p>I would also get in touch with NarcAnon or AlAnon for advice on how to deal with this sort of manipulative behaviour.</p><p></p><p>We can help, but you may need more 'hands on' help closer to you physically.</p><p></p><p>Stay strong, darlin'.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 347587, member: 1991"] Actually, that is also what I would do. I would also send that message via text and find a way to keep a permanent unimpeachable copy (ie a copy that clearly is not doctored or mocked up by you after he collapses from malnutrition). Emails tend to be good for this. If he wants money and not food, ten he will be scathing about tihs. Also be careful - don't buy stuff he can on-sell. Get the can opener from an op-shop, for example. Or buy tinned food with ring-pulls. Our church has a food drive every so often, organised by a bloke who works with homeless people. He gave us clear instructions - nothing too gourmet, aim for a balance (tubes of sweetened condensed milk, for example, a great for coffee and tea). And ALWAYS tinned food has to have a ring-pull, because homeless people don't always have a can opener. Baked beans are great. Tinned truffles are not. Tins of soup that you don't have to water down are best - they often don't have a container to heat soup up in. I know it sounds gross, but most of the time they will eat the tinned contents without heating it up. So bear that in mind. Forget buying tinned pet food - it is the most expensive way to buy food, all those stories of pensioners who live on a diet of Whiskas is pure media BS & beat-up. I can buy food for the family much cheaper per serve, than tinned cat food. Fresh fruit & vegetables - great, he can't pawn that. But not too much at one time, he has to carry it and eat it before it goes off. Other than that - nothing. As others have said (you included), HE chose to leave and not live by your rules. I would also get in touch with NarcAnon or AlAnon for advice on how to deal with this sort of manipulative behaviour. We can help, but you may need more 'hands on' help closer to you physically. Stay strong, darlin'. Marg [/QUOTE]
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