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<blockquote data-quote="busywend" data-source="post: 354077" data-attributes="member: 391"><p>Welcome to the site. I am really glad you found us. </p><p> </p><p>I did not read every word above, but from what I read here is what I gathered. I do not mean this to be offensive. I get the feeling you have made excuses for this child for years. The very fact that the ex had to reveal things to the court - not you - and it resulted in a residential placement. I think you have been trying to protect him - probably from what he experienced as a child when your ex was abusing you. I don't know, maybe you feel guilt that he had to endure and witness that abuse. </p><p> </p><p>I do not mean that as an accusation. I mean it as a tool for you to evaluate your own reactions and actions in the past so you can be sure you are doing the right thing. </p><p> </p><p>Reading what I read above, I think the best possible thing for him is to get his way at this time. Get him into another residential facility. You will NOT be able to after he is 18. This is likely the last chance for it. I would not accept him back into the home. He is not prepared or equiped to live in a traditional family setting. He needs trained professionals 24x7. Sorry - I know that might be painful to read. AND I AM NO EXPERT. This is just what comes to my mind as I read your thread.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="busywend, post: 354077, member: 391"] Welcome to the site. I am really glad you found us. I did not read every word above, but from what I read here is what I gathered. I do not mean this to be offensive. I get the feeling you have made excuses for this child for years. The very fact that the ex had to reveal things to the court - not you - and it resulted in a residential placement. I think you have been trying to protect him - probably from what he experienced as a child when your ex was abusing you. I don't know, maybe you feel guilt that he had to endure and witness that abuse. I do not mean that as an accusation. I mean it as a tool for you to evaluate your own reactions and actions in the past so you can be sure you are doing the right thing. Reading what I read above, I think the best possible thing for him is to get his way at this time. Get him into another residential facility. You will NOT be able to after he is 18. This is likely the last chance for it. I would not accept him back into the home. He is not prepared or equiped to live in a traditional family setting. He needs trained professionals 24x7. Sorry - I know that might be painful to read. AND I AM NO EXPERT. This is just what comes to my mind as I read your thread. [/QUOTE]
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