hello, i am new here and this is my first post. i am very disturbed today and kinda need a friend to talk to. today i got on the internet and started poking around because i was curious about something. i heard someone say that adult psychological disorders cannot be diagnosed until the child reaches 18 and is legally an adult. i wondered what my son might be diagnosed with when he gets 18, if anything. my son will be 18 in december of this year. i typed in some of his behaiviors and low and behold antisocial personality disorder started popping up everywhere. he has been diagnosed with conduct disorder. as i started reading and researching the disease i found out that the person had to have three out of about ten signs to be diagnosed. my son clearly has at least seven of the markers. Also there was "psychopath" and a list of about 20 things on that list. The person has to have most of the things on the list and out of about 20 he had 16 or so. I guess i have been very naiive about this whole thing. i guess i thought that conduct disorder was just a name for something , you know it sounds a lot like troublemaker. i guess i thought daniel would grow out of this. i hoped anyways. and i am always looking for some new way to fix him so that he will have this chance at a normal life. i am always dissappointed when he does something else that is leading down the same wrong direction. i had hoped that he would at least be able to support himself. Looking at the psychopath description is like looking at a biography that daniel wrote himself about his life. And what it says to me is this. Daniel is not going to grow out of this. He will maintain a lifestyle that is not condusive to productive, happy life. Chances are he will have trouble with the law. Chances are if he has a family he will abuse them. He has an increased risk for suicide, violent death, drug abuse. I am left bewildered. I am wondering, what now? Because daniel is 17, he will be 18 in december. he is kicked out of school in the state of indiana for the rest of the year and if he tries to go back next year and miraculously does his work- which he will not- he will be twenty when he graduates. he will not do any work for any length of time so he cant hold down a job. He steals. He lies. He is violent when he does not like what you say or you deny him something he wants. he has threatened to kill my husband. my two younger children live in tennesse with thier father because they told the judge they were afraid of daniel. daniel has been sexually aggresive with peers and his sister and someone else. lets leave it at that. and it is highly highly abnormal. nevertheless he has never raped anyone. i cant just throw him out of my house but i cant just take care of him for the rest of my life and allow him to abuse me and threaten to kill my husband.so what now? i am afraid of him. i still love him. what do i do now?