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What the heck is plan B?
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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 214980" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Linda, I'm so sorry for what you're going through. Hang in there, be strong - we already know just how strong you are. </p><p></p><p>As for your husband, I have two thoughts for him:</p><p></p><p>1) You can't run away from yourself; </p><p></p><p>and</p><p></p><p>2) If he's "just a wallet" then why increase the family's financial burden by doubling the accommodation costs and paying for a second abode, just for him? How is that saving money in any way? </p><p></p><p>Sounds to me like he is totally in denial about everything you're going through and also what he himself is having to deal with - if he's only recently been told about his bipolar, then maybe he's just trying to get away from it so he can go back to how everything was in his life before.</p><p></p><p>I'd be calling his therapist and even if therapist can't talk to you about anything husband has told him, then at least therapist can LISTEN to you as you report what has happened subsequently.</p><p></p><p>As for your long drive - make an adventure out of it for kt. Plan in plenty of rest breaks and take your time. Bring plenty of things for kt to do quietly for the times when you pull over and catnap on the side of the road. I also use the iPod a lot for music, if I have to pull over to rest I put on some quiet instrumental classical music. It drowns out the traffic noise outside and also helps keep difficult child 3 calm.</p><p></p><p>Stay safe. Stay strong. Don't try to change things you can't. Your life is tricky enough, just trying to manage the things you can.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 214980, member: 1991"] Linda, I'm so sorry for what you're going through. Hang in there, be strong - we already know just how strong you are. As for your husband, I have two thoughts for him: 1) You can't run away from yourself; and 2) If he's "just a wallet" then why increase the family's financial burden by doubling the accommodation costs and paying for a second abode, just for him? How is that saving money in any way? Sounds to me like he is totally in denial about everything you're going through and also what he himself is having to deal with - if he's only recently been told about his bipolar, then maybe he's just trying to get away from it so he can go back to how everything was in his life before. I'd be calling his therapist and even if therapist can't talk to you about anything husband has told him, then at least therapist can LISTEN to you as you report what has happened subsequently. As for your long drive - make an adventure out of it for kt. Plan in plenty of rest breaks and take your time. Bring plenty of things for kt to do quietly for the times when you pull over and catnap on the side of the road. I also use the iPod a lot for music, if I have to pull over to rest I put on some quiet instrumental classical music. It drowns out the traffic noise outside and also helps keep difficult child 3 calm. Stay safe. Stay strong. Don't try to change things you can't. Your life is tricky enough, just trying to manage the things you can. Marg [/QUOTE]
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