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<blockquote data-quote="nvts" data-source="post: 80426" data-attributes="member: 3814"><p>Hi! Don't stop posting...I for one am learning how to grow a spine via YOU! </p><p></p><p>I don't think it was a bad idea for the quick dinner. Keep in mind while you're going to therapy to grow, he is going to try and keep things the same. It's natural that he's going to grasp at straws to help bail out a sinking ship. Remember, you're waaaay farther ahead of him on the whole seperation - he was shocked as hell that you got that far when you told him. </p><p></p><p>Think of the fact that he's like three steps behind you in the maturity factor on this one. You've been toiling through all of the 5 steps of grieving (grieving your relationship). He's on the negotiating one.</p><p></p><p>I myself, would rather horse around friends than go to a pig roast so I don't think you're missing much. But I caution you not to skip everything that he's going to. Right now in the seperation, territories are being staked (rather dramatic statement I know, but I can't think of a better way to put it!) and you don't want to be shut out because you didn't show up! </p><p></p><p>He's not being a jerk, he's desperately clinging to the familiar. Bottom line: he's scared!</p><p></p><p>Gotta get the little miss off the bus!</p><p></p><p>Later!</p><p>Beth</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="nvts, post: 80426, member: 3814"] Hi! Don't stop posting...I for one am learning how to grow a spine via YOU! I don't think it was a bad idea for the quick dinner. Keep in mind while you're going to therapy to grow, he is going to try and keep things the same. It's natural that he's going to grasp at straws to help bail out a sinking ship. Remember, you're waaaay farther ahead of him on the whole seperation - he was shocked as hell that you got that far when you told him. Think of the fact that he's like three steps behind you in the maturity factor on this one. You've been toiling through all of the 5 steps of grieving (grieving your relationship). He's on the negotiating one. I myself, would rather horse around friends than go to a pig roast so I don't think you're missing much. But I caution you not to skip everything that he's going to. Right now in the seperation, territories are being staked (rather dramatic statement I know, but I can't think of a better way to put it!) and you don't want to be shut out because you didn't show up! He's not being a jerk, he's desperately clinging to the familiar. Bottom line: he's scared! Gotta get the little miss off the bus! Later! Beth [/QUOTE]
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