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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 262651" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Want to know what I was working towards with Dude? </p><p> </p><p>WHY is that any of my concern? The fact that he will be OUT of my house, the fact that he will be destroying basically his OWN property, the fact that if he puts holes in a wall of a home he's renting will have adult consequences and punishments are on him - not me. </p><p> </p><p>Not my problem. </p><p> </p><p>I do understand what you are saying - and since I'm not psychic or/and can not predict any future event I try to maintain a positive outlook, do the best I can to parent from a distance and revel in facts like - the guy that dude shares a part time home with said that he is the BEST room mate you could get - he cleans, he keeps his room neat, he does dishes, he vacuumes, he checks the temperature and rakes the yard - told me that maybe.......having things of his own - made a difference. </p><p> </p><p>The last 2 years in Dudes life have been remarkable up, down, up, down and at times so sickening I gave myself a stroke. After that happened? I stopped worrying (mostly) or tried to stop worrying about things that I could NOT forsee or control. I invested my time in the now - and took classes and therapy to be a better parent. I also came here, cried, whined and really really listened to those parents in Parent Emeritus who had and were trying to detach. I didn't get it at first - but now I do and I would repeat the first part of my post here - but you Know what I mean?? </p><p> </p><p>If you had asked me 2 years ago if Dude would ever live on his own? The answer would have been NO - and I sat and envisioned him going to jail for breaking windows and things in wherever he stayed.....but now he's taking out the trash, and raking the yard, washing dishes, vacuuming and doing his own laundry and keeping his room clean. I call it miraculous! I'd rather invest my time in hope than despair. (most days) lol </p><p> </p><p>Hang in there - there's a lot of maturity left to be had. Even for your son. Hugs </p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 262651, member: 4964"] Want to know what I was working towards with Dude? WHY is that any of my concern? The fact that he will be OUT of my house, the fact that he will be destroying basically his OWN property, the fact that if he puts holes in a wall of a home he's renting will have adult consequences and punishments are on him - not me. Not my problem. I do understand what you are saying - and since I'm not psychic or/and can not predict any future event I try to maintain a positive outlook, do the best I can to parent from a distance and revel in facts like - the guy that dude shares a part time home with said that he is the BEST room mate you could get - he cleans, he keeps his room neat, he does dishes, he vacuumes, he checks the temperature and rakes the yard - told me that maybe.......having things of his own - made a difference. The last 2 years in Dudes life have been remarkable up, down, up, down and at times so sickening I gave myself a stroke. After that happened? I stopped worrying (mostly) or tried to stop worrying about things that I could NOT forsee or control. I invested my time in the now - and took classes and therapy to be a better parent. I also came here, cried, whined and really really listened to those parents in Parent Emeritus who had and were trying to detach. I didn't get it at first - but now I do and I would repeat the first part of my post here - but you Know what I mean?? If you had asked me 2 years ago if Dude would ever live on his own? The answer would have been NO - and I sat and envisioned him going to jail for breaking windows and things in wherever he stayed.....but now he's taking out the trash, and raking the yard, washing dishes, vacuuming and doing his own laundry and keeping his room clean. I call it miraculous! I'd rather invest my time in hope than despair. (most days) lol Hang in there - there's a lot of maturity left to be had. Even for your son. Hugs Star [/QUOTE]
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