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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 279247" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Thanks all - I did get a lot of good advice here and I did take it to the discussion table and put it into a plan. I think that's the beauty of this board. I feel like I'm ON track, I waiver, get off track and then hear from other Moms their sublte suggestions, and absolute advice of what works. </p><p> </p><p>I also hear that there are others out there like me that get off track but come here to have their caboose put back on track (woooo whooo) lol. </p><p> </p><p>I had a talk with Dude last night - it was more of a "OMG i discovered even MORE things out of place." and started stewing over it. I was not a person to be near at all last night and then I remembered Trinity saying she is STILL finding things broken, taken, out of place. SO I knew I wasn't alone. Then I called him and confronted him about the things that were making me so mad it could have ruined my night - and then I thought 'WHY do I allow you to do this?" I won't. I'm not going to stew or fret....I'm angry NOW - I called....I told him what he did, I told him I KNEW he did it....and I told him : </p><p> </p><p>From now on you will be INVITED.......if you call and want to come here to get away from where you are.....understand a few things IMMEDIATELY or stay where you are.</p><p>1.) There will be NO MORE use of my computer. </p><p>2.) ALL the doors will be locked when you get here. </p><p>3.) The shop is off limits until your Dad says OKay I trust you</p><p>4.) You & your car show up here untaged, unlicensed ? We call the police. </p><p>5.) YOU WILL start paying us back the money you owe us</p><p>6.) YOU WILL ask for soda, chips, snacks when you are our guest. I have NO problem feeding anyone - but we made stuffed peppers and mashed potatos for dinner -you said Not hungry - then we find a bag of oreos, a box of poptarts, a bag of doritos, 6 sodas gone - and 1/2 a dish of candy gone? FOOEY - no more. No more junk before a well planned dinner. </p><p>7.) YOU WILL NOT take gas from this house, our cans were empty - you wil go with your father to lift and fill all of them the next time you do come for a visit. It's hard for a disabled man to lift 40lb gas cans - and you just took the gas and left the cans laying all over. NOT happening any more. Stealing is stealing. </p><p> </p><p>and the list goes on for minor things - But.....it's a start. And I will keep in mind those of you who posted with older kids that there is hope and remain hopeful. Thanks for sharing. </p><p> </p><p>Many hugs.....</p><p>Thank you so much for the advice. We appreciate the jolt of reality. lol </p><p> </p><p>Star & DF</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 279247, member: 4964"] Thanks all - I did get a lot of good advice here and I did take it to the discussion table and put it into a plan. I think that's the beauty of this board. I feel like I'm ON track, I waiver, get off track and then hear from other Moms their sublte suggestions, and absolute advice of what works. I also hear that there are others out there like me that get off track but come here to have their caboose put back on track (woooo whooo) lol. I had a talk with Dude last night - it was more of a "OMG i discovered even MORE things out of place." and started stewing over it. I was not a person to be near at all last night and then I remembered Trinity saying she is STILL finding things broken, taken, out of place. SO I knew I wasn't alone. Then I called him and confronted him about the things that were making me so mad it could have ruined my night - and then I thought 'WHY do I allow you to do this?" I won't. I'm not going to stew or fret....I'm angry NOW - I called....I told him what he did, I told him I KNEW he did it....and I told him : From now on you will be INVITED.......if you call and want to come here to get away from where you are.....understand a few things IMMEDIATELY or stay where you are. 1.) There will be NO MORE use of my computer. 2.) ALL the doors will be locked when you get here. 3.) The shop is off limits until your Dad says OKay I trust you 4.) You & your car show up here untaged, unlicensed ? We call the police. 5.) YOU WILL start paying us back the money you owe us 6.) YOU WILL ask for soda, chips, snacks when you are our guest. I have NO problem feeding anyone - but we made stuffed peppers and mashed potatos for dinner -you said Not hungry - then we find a bag of oreos, a box of poptarts, a bag of doritos, 6 sodas gone - and 1/2 a dish of candy gone? FOOEY - no more. No more junk before a well planned dinner. 7.) YOU WILL NOT take gas from this house, our cans were empty - you wil go with your father to lift and fill all of them the next time you do come for a visit. It's hard for a disabled man to lift 40lb gas cans - and you just took the gas and left the cans laying all over. NOT happening any more. Stealing is stealing. and the list goes on for minor things - But.....it's a start. And I will keep in mind those of you who posted with older kids that there is hope and remain hopeful. Thanks for sharing. Many hugs..... Thank you so much for the advice. We appreciate the jolt of reality. lol Star & DF [/QUOTE]
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