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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 399993" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>I would have to say that about 99% of the time, thank you initiates contact. In the past month or so, I think I've contacted him twice - once to ask him if he wanted to come over for dinner because I was cooking something special and once to see if he wanted to see Harry Potter with us. But that's really unusual for me. I think I probably stopped calling him when he was 17 or so, while he was in TLP. He had become really vicious on the phone (you know, same old story, blaming me for his inability to follow rules, how if I'd just let him come home to live everything would be roses and butterflies). I finally had just had enough of being called every name in the book, being blamed for all that's wrong in the world, while also being expected to jump every time he said to. After he hit 18 and dropped out of school, got kicked out of TLP, there was a period of about 4-5 months where we didn't hear from him at all. I will admit that I checked his myspace status regularly just to verify he was still alive, but... I didn't know where he was living and really had no way to get a hold of him anyway.</p><p></p><p>For quite a long time, the only time I heard from him is if he wanted something. It also had gotten to the point where it was really hard to have a conversation with him because I couldn't ask him what he was up to because I knew I didn't want to know. I still don't ask a whole lot of questions, once again do not know where he is living or how he is getting around. But... it's better now too because he will occasionally just call to chat, not to ask for something. It's hard to explain, but I think our conversations now are much more relaxed.</p><p></p><p>It was pretty stressful waiting for him to contact us, but... I think we've found a balance that works for us. I'd follow your gut as well as his lead.</p><p></p><p>No adult pcs out of the home yet, but Weeburt has been away for 3-4 weeks at a time a couple times in the past few years... he doesn't call or write or email, LOL. That's just him. Diva, on the other hand, texts me from her bedroom (upstairs). I think it will depend on the kid.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 399993, member: 8"] I would have to say that about 99% of the time, thank you initiates contact. In the past month or so, I think I've contacted him twice - once to ask him if he wanted to come over for dinner because I was cooking something special and once to see if he wanted to see Harry Potter with us. But that's really unusual for me. I think I probably stopped calling him when he was 17 or so, while he was in TLP. He had become really vicious on the phone (you know, same old story, blaming me for his inability to follow rules, how if I'd just let him come home to live everything would be roses and butterflies). I finally had just had enough of being called every name in the book, being blamed for all that's wrong in the world, while also being expected to jump every time he said to. After he hit 18 and dropped out of school, got kicked out of TLP, there was a period of about 4-5 months where we didn't hear from him at all. I will admit that I checked his myspace status regularly just to verify he was still alive, but... I didn't know where he was living and really had no way to get a hold of him anyway. For quite a long time, the only time I heard from him is if he wanted something. It also had gotten to the point where it was really hard to have a conversation with him because I couldn't ask him what he was up to because I knew I didn't want to know. I still don't ask a whole lot of questions, once again do not know where he is living or how he is getting around. But... it's better now too because he will occasionally just call to chat, not to ask for something. It's hard to explain, but I think our conversations now are much more relaxed. It was pretty stressful waiting for him to contact us, but... I think we've found a balance that works for us. I'd follow your gut as well as his lead. No adult pcs out of the home yet, but Weeburt has been away for 3-4 weeks at a time a couple times in the past few years... he doesn't call or write or email, LOL. That's just him. Diva, on the other hand, texts me from her bedroom (upstairs). I think it will depend on the kid. [/QUOTE]
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