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<blockquote data-quote="dashcat" data-source="post: 400138" data-attributes="member: 9175"><p>Interesting timing on this question, as it is a point of concern for me right now.</p><p> </p><p>Dashlet has a disturbing pattern with regard to contact. When she first went to college, I left it up to her to initiate the first call, and it came in about three days. After that, if I didn't hear from her in two days, I called her. And this is where the pattern began: when things are going well with her and she is happy and reasonably telling the truth, she calls almost daily - sometimes more - and always picks up the phone when I call her. When things are not going well and/or she is about to embark upon some unfortuante expedition, she will not pick up when I call and will not call me. She is living with her dad right now, within walking distance of my home. She has a car and a cellphone. I took her to see Black Swan on 1/2 and had her over for dinner (her favorite - fettucine alfredo). We talked about getting together for pizza later that week and it never happpened (silly excuses sent via text). I've called her twice since then and she did text once to say she'd call me later - again, never happened. </p><p> </p><p>I'm concerned because of the pattern, and a little sad. I will continue to reach out, but - for the most part I'm treating her like my beloved Maine Coon Cat: I'm letting her come to me. </p><p> </p><p>I wasn't a difficult child (althoug, compared to my older sisters, I may have looked like one for awhile!) but I called my parents regularly and saw them very frequently. DEX was less diligent with his parents, but I often initiated contact with them, too. I'm very close to my sisters and my nieces and Dashlet has grown up with that as the norm. I'm doing my best to be patient but, again, the pattern has me worried.</p><p>Dash</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dashcat, post: 400138, member: 9175"] Interesting timing on this question, as it is a point of concern for me right now. Dashlet has a disturbing pattern with regard to contact. When she first went to college, I left it up to her to initiate the first call, and it came in about three days. After that, if I didn't hear from her in two days, I called her. And this is where the pattern began: when things are going well with her and she is happy and reasonably telling the truth, she calls almost daily - sometimes more - and always picks up the phone when I call her. When things are not going well and/or she is about to embark upon some unfortuante expedition, she will not pick up when I call and will not call me. She is living with her dad right now, within walking distance of my home. She has a car and a cellphone. I took her to see Black Swan on 1/2 and had her over for dinner (her favorite - fettucine alfredo). We talked about getting together for pizza later that week and it never happpened (silly excuses sent via text). I've called her twice since then and she did text once to say she'd call me later - again, never happened. I'm concerned because of the pattern, and a little sad. I will continue to reach out, but - for the most part I'm treating her like my beloved Maine Coon Cat: I'm letting her come to me. I wasn't a difficult child (althoug, compared to my older sisters, I may have looked like one for awhile!) but I called my parents regularly and saw them very frequently. DEX was less diligent with his parents, but I often initiated contact with them, too. I'm very close to my sisters and my nieces and Dashlet has grown up with that as the norm. I'm doing my best to be patient but, again, the pattern has me worried. Dash [/QUOTE]
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