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<blockquote data-quote="Signorina" data-source="post: 480421"><p>I am struggling with that too. Our difficult children are the same age and I fully expected to be (happily) supporting my 19 yo easy child for many more years. </p><p></p><p>So, I think we will attempt to support the easy child that has been eaten alive by the difficult child. Originally, we were willing to pay his rent directly to his LL. That's off the table. But I'd be willing to let him move back home under strict standards. (which I know doesn't work for you). If he wants to stay in his college town, he needs to support himself.</p><p></p><p>If he got arrested, I'd be willing to help him so long as he agreed to strict standards-moving home, getting help, staying clean. I'd have the lawyer spell out that agreement before intervening on his behalf.</p><p></p><p>I will send no money or gift cards but may send groceries. I may consider a food plan thru school. I will pay tuition directly to uni if he maintains a 2.50+ and 15 hours & gives us full access to computerized school records. I will not fill out FAFSA. </p><p></p><p>And yes, I know my best case scenario of him moving home under strict guidelines may actually be my worst nightmare. </p><p></p><p>So that's where I am for now. And I absolutely agree that you must address any suicide threats</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Signorina, post: 480421"] I am struggling with that too. Our difficult children are the same age and I fully expected to be (happily) supporting my 19 yo easy child for many more years. So, I think we will attempt to support the easy child that has been eaten alive by the difficult child. Originally, we were willing to pay his rent directly to his LL. That's off the table. But I'd be willing to let him move back home under strict standards. (which I know doesn't work for you). If he wants to stay in his college town, he needs to support himself. If he got arrested, I'd be willing to help him so long as he agreed to strict standards-moving home, getting help, staying clean. I'd have the lawyer spell out that agreement before intervening on his behalf. I will send no money or gift cards but may send groceries. I may consider a food plan thru school. I will pay tuition directly to uni if he maintains a 2.50+ and 15 hours & gives us full access to computerized school records. I will not fill out FAFSA. And yes, I know my best case scenario of him moving home under strict guidelines may actually be my worst nightmare. So that's where I am for now. And I absolutely agree that you must address any suicide threats [/QUOTE]
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