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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 171242" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>With what you describe, and what you have shared here in the past of his history, can you get anywhere NOW with doctors etc in terms of getting him some REAL help?</p><p></p><p>If you can't get the severity of the problems through their thick skulls, what if you try to set up a meeting and involve someone from school, someone from his health team etc and see if they can meet? Failing that, are you using a communication book? We used to take difficult child 3's communication book to the specialist, it was as good as having his teachers present at the consult. That way, if the doctor thought I was making things up or exaggerating, then the book told him otherwise.</p><p></p><p>Anything you have in writing from the teachers, hang onto it and show it to the doctors.</p><p></p><p>You need to get outside help, sooner. You need it, your daughter needs it, he needs it.</p><p></p><p>He is terrorising you all NOW. Imagine how it will be if tis continues unchecked, and you all endure years more of it? And by then, he will be bigger, stronger, and much more skilled at torture.</p><p></p><p>Whatever is causing this, it needs to be identified and treated.</p><p></p><p>Do not feel a failure for getting outside help. Do not let ANYONE make you feel like you're making it up, or trying to get attention, or that you're a bad parent. You are not a bad parent in any way.</p><p></p><p>But it's time to stand up and say, "enough!"</p><p></p><p>I've just done some digging online, made a few anonymous calls to contacts and found a few possibilities. I've not listed things I know you've already tried, or things which are likely to be nothing more than someone handing you a cup of tea and saying, "there, there" after a six month wait to get in; but have you tried Redbank House? I haven't spoken to them, I don't know anything more than I read on the website.</p><p></p><p>Other suggestions - maybe you've already tried with no result, I don't know - Parentline NSW, on 13 20 55. It's a 24 hour service. They may offer you nothing more than virtual cups of tea, or they may have more practical referral suggestions.</p><p></p><p>The Redbank site looked interesting, the family referral option especially. Whether they would take you on board, or what their entry requirements are, I just don't know. I don't want to make too many enquiries because it's YOUR story, not mine. I don't want to make too specific an enquiry because when you call them, it needs to be nothing that sounds familiar to them. I just enquired in general terms - "who would you call if you have concerns about your primary school child's mental health, and your child is self-harming as well as harming others in the house?"</p><p></p><p>I think Redbank are based in or near Westmead. Is this any use?</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 171242, member: 1991"] With what you describe, and what you have shared here in the past of his history, can you get anywhere NOW with doctors etc in terms of getting him some REAL help? If you can't get the severity of the problems through their thick skulls, what if you try to set up a meeting and involve someone from school, someone from his health team etc and see if they can meet? Failing that, are you using a communication book? We used to take difficult child 3's communication book to the specialist, it was as good as having his teachers present at the consult. That way, if the doctor thought I was making things up or exaggerating, then the book told him otherwise. Anything you have in writing from the teachers, hang onto it and show it to the doctors. You need to get outside help, sooner. You need it, your daughter needs it, he needs it. He is terrorising you all NOW. Imagine how it will be if tis continues unchecked, and you all endure years more of it? And by then, he will be bigger, stronger, and much more skilled at torture. Whatever is causing this, it needs to be identified and treated. Do not feel a failure for getting outside help. Do not let ANYONE make you feel like you're making it up, or trying to get attention, or that you're a bad parent. You are not a bad parent in any way. But it's time to stand up and say, "enough!" I've just done some digging online, made a few anonymous calls to contacts and found a few possibilities. I've not listed things I know you've already tried, or things which are likely to be nothing more than someone handing you a cup of tea and saying, "there, there" after a six month wait to get in; but have you tried Redbank House? I haven't spoken to them, I don't know anything more than I read on the website. Other suggestions - maybe you've already tried with no result, I don't know - Parentline NSW, on 13 20 55. It's a 24 hour service. They may offer you nothing more than virtual cups of tea, or they may have more practical referral suggestions. The Redbank site looked interesting, the family referral option especially. Whether they would take you on board, or what their entry requirements are, I just don't know. I don't want to make too many enquiries because it's YOUR story, not mine. I don't want to make too specific an enquiry because when you call them, it needs to be nothing that sounds familiar to them. I just enquired in general terms - "who would you call if you have concerns about your primary school child's mental health, and your child is self-harming as well as harming others in the house?" I think Redbank are based in or near Westmead. Is this any use? Marg [/QUOTE]
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