That a difficult child is really changing??? difficult child 2 (dubbed Bad Baby B in the NICU; hah! even then!) came for a four day visit accompanied by his fiancée. It was to celebrate his 23rd b'day. We had a really great time. I have not enjoyed this loving side of him since he was 11y.o. The twins helped make their dinner celebration, their help in the kitchen has always been a rare event so this was a treat for husband and me. It seems (I still don't know what is reality) that all charges of theft were dropped as they arrested one of his former co-workers. difficult child 2 is studying to be a medical asst., getting all A's and B's. He is really loving his community college experience, no high school drama. He is now considered to be a disabled US vet because he injured his knee during training. His VA doctor put him on a generic wellbutrin to help him quit smoking. I think this has helped mellow him out. Fiancée seems very nice and polite, I feel sorry that she seems to have to be the emotional brakes for difficult child 2. I've done that during my entire marriage and it's exhausting. The two brothers did not fight, but they definitely have invisible wires between them which they cannot seem to sever. difficult child 1 is having a hard time seeing his twin so attached to someone else. It's sad to watch but it's his problem! The VA is sending difficult child 2 to Boston for fiber optic exam of his knee and possible removal of his meniscus. They have him on tramadol (synthetic opioid). This makes me REALLY nervous because of his years of drug use. They needed to wait until after the surgery, not before. I tore my meniscus and took ibuprofen because of my own fears of dependency. When can I start to exhale? Can the love of a good woman really set him straight? Is it possible that the good grades and support he enjoys at his college are leading him toward maturity and a decent sense of self? Do I believe in miracles?