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<blockquote data-quote="ANewLife4Me" data-source="post: 764591" data-attributes="member: 32799"><p>How many years have you been going through this New Leaf? Has anything changed in the time you have done so? My daughter’s newest jailtime brought me to the slap in the face moment of WAKE UP!! Last time she was in jail I was not going to bail her out but her co-workers did. They let her sleep on their couch a few days but she needed a permanent place. Guess who?? <img class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" alt="😔" title="Pensive face :pensive:" src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/6.6/png/unicode/64/1f614.png" data-shortname=":pensive:" /></p><p></p><p>This back and forth with your emotions, time and effort you know is not good for you. They obviously want no part of the life you want for them and continually test the waters to see how much until you break. Your son is involved in relaying messages for you, while admirable, it’s still letting them know…..okay Mom is super mad, let her cool off and will try her again later. </p><p></p><p>My choosing to not put any money into her jail account hurts me more than it does her. I am not visiting her this time either as I cannot bear to see in person the manipulation…I will do it this time Mom, I found God while in and am a different person, I will do whatever you want me too….promise. Nope, my hearts too fragile to go through that all again. </p><p></p><p>You are starting to show some strength in saying you won’t put money on her books. We each have to take this at our own pace but, I personally see where a lot of enabling is still happening. I do not mean that harshly, but with much caring for you….you have so much on your shoulders. Maybe step back for a bit and see how they fare? What bad could possibly come out of it that the girls have not already faced? </p><p></p><p>With my own daughter it’s the hardest thing I have ever done, I love her so so much. But, it’s h*ll living/helping her and h*ll leaving her to her own. <img class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" alt="😭" title="Loudly crying face :sob:" src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/6.6/png/unicode/64/1f62d.png" data-shortname=":sob:" /></p><p></p><p>((HUGS))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ANewLife4Me, post: 764591, member: 32799"] How many years have you been going through this New Leaf? Has anything changed in the time you have done so? My daughter’s newest jailtime brought me to the slap in the face moment of WAKE UP!! Last time she was in jail I was not going to bail her out but her co-workers did. They let her sleep on their couch a few days but she needed a permanent place. Guess who?? 😔 This back and forth with your emotions, time and effort you know is not good for you. They obviously want no part of the life you want for them and continually test the waters to see how much until you break. Your son is involved in relaying messages for you, while admirable, it’s still letting them know…..okay Mom is super mad, let her cool off and will try her again later. My choosing to not put any money into her jail account hurts me more than it does her. I am not visiting her this time either as I cannot bear to see in person the manipulation…I will do it this time Mom, I found God while in and am a different person, I will do whatever you want me too….promise. Nope, my hearts too fragile to go through that all again. You are starting to show some strength in saying you won’t put money on her books. We each have to take this at our own pace but, I personally see where a lot of enabling is still happening. I do not mean that harshly, but with much caring for you….you have so much on your shoulders. Maybe step back for a bit and see how they fare? What bad could possibly come out of it that the girls have not already faced? With my own daughter it’s the hardest thing I have ever done, I love her so so much. But, it’s h*ll living/helping her and h*ll leaving her to her own. 😭 ((HUGS)) [/QUOTE]
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