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<blockquote data-quote="ready2run" data-source="post: 431863" data-attributes="member: 11339"><p>i tell my younger ones that difficult child's brain does not work the same as ours does and that he does things that he's not supposed to because his brain does not understand being good properly. it seems to work, they understand it and say it sometimes when difficult child is acting out(we are working on getting them to think it without verbalising it) but at least it's some sort of explanation that makes sense to them. difficult child does not like it but that's too bad. sometimes i have to do things he doesn't like because it's what is best for everyone.</p><p>i would think twice about letting your difficult child get away with things just because he is disabled. that is not fair and it sets a bad example. at our house if anyone hits it's an automatic time out. for the two small kids, each has their spot on the wall where they will stand quietly with their nose on the wall. difficult child will go into meltdown mode often because of time out and it's not possible to get him to stand quietly at the wall, so he is sent to his room to sit on the bed. he is to sit there until he has been quiet for several minutes. sometimes this takes all night, sometimes he does it right away. he will learn. and well, if he doesn't at least the other kids will be safe for that period of time. i don't think that our kids will ever learn to control themselves if we don't discipline them. we need to find ways that will work and stick to it. i know it is impulsive and not always planned out but they will learn there are consequences and though it won't help on every incidence it will cut down the # of problems. i try to keep my difficult child on a short leash as too much freedom tends to lead to disaster.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ready2run, post: 431863, member: 11339"] i tell my younger ones that difficult child's brain does not work the same as ours does and that he does things that he's not supposed to because his brain does not understand being good properly. it seems to work, they understand it and say it sometimes when difficult child is acting out(we are working on getting them to think it without verbalising it) but at least it's some sort of explanation that makes sense to them. difficult child does not like it but that's too bad. sometimes i have to do things he doesn't like because it's what is best for everyone. i would think twice about letting your difficult child get away with things just because he is disabled. that is not fair and it sets a bad example. at our house if anyone hits it's an automatic time out. for the two small kids, each has their spot on the wall where they will stand quietly with their nose on the wall. difficult child will go into meltdown mode often because of time out and it's not possible to get him to stand quietly at the wall, so he is sent to his room to sit on the bed. he is to sit there until he has been quiet for several minutes. sometimes this takes all night, sometimes he does it right away. he will learn. and well, if he doesn't at least the other kids will be safe for that period of time. i don't think that our kids will ever learn to control themselves if we don't discipline them. we need to find ways that will work and stick to it. i know it is impulsive and not always planned out but they will learn there are consequences and though it won't help on every incidence it will cut down the # of problems. i try to keep my difficult child on a short leash as too much freedom tends to lead to disaster. [/QUOTE]
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