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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 220896" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>Gosh, Witz... wish all it took was being a mod. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> Things here are actually pretty bleak so I'm trying to keep mum about it. Not much husband or I, or any professional, can do about it without an iota of compliance from him.</p><p> </p><p>I went to a mtg last weekend for parents whose kids have the same funding thank you does - the topic was transition and the difficulties some of the families are having in terms of placements, supervision, education, services, etc., with our older teens. To my mother's eye, there's a huge gap in services for teens, to which the director of the mental health side of the funding program agreed. But the bottom line is that at age 18, guardianship or no, our severely mentally ill kids have the right to self-determine (an oxymoron in my opinion). Dir said the key is communication and cooperation between parents, child, and agencies involved. If all 3 aren't in place, it's a bumpy ride. thank you is of course about as cooperative as the weather. I'm anticipating he'll be on the street by spring. </p><p> </p><p>On a positive note though, he has developed social skills (kinda). For a kid who was ostracized by his peers by the end of 1st grade because of his behaviors, and spent the last 8.5 years living only with other difficult children, I'm really happily suprised that he has been able to form friendships outside of his current placement. When you look at the big picture - that's really amazing progress for him. </p><p> </p><p>I've been quiet lately because I'm struggling here with the whole process. A lot of self-doubt, could we have done something different/better? Have the last 13 years been a waste of effort? Is it hopeless for some of our kids given the severity of their illness? I'm trying really hard to truly believe that if nothing else, we did our best to give thank you a fighting chance, but I'm not there yet. I'm also beyond weary from banging my head against the brick wall that is my son. I've come to a pretty abrupt halt in terms of agressively advocating for him because he sabotages every darn thing I do and for all intents and purposes, time has run out.</p><p> </p><p>I guess I always thought he'd graduate (he won't) and be self-supporting (he may be someday, but .....). In a lot of ways, I've come full circle. When I joined the board almost 10 years ago, thank you consumed my every waking thought. I'm back there again - familiar territory I guess. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 220896, member: 8"] Gosh, Witz... wish all it took was being a mod. ;) Things here are actually pretty bleak so I'm trying to keep mum about it. Not much husband or I, or any professional, can do about it without an iota of compliance from him. I went to a mtg last weekend for parents whose kids have the same funding thank you does - the topic was transition and the difficulties some of the families are having in terms of placements, supervision, education, services, etc., with our older teens. To my mother's eye, there's a huge gap in services for teens, to which the director of the mental health side of the funding program agreed. But the bottom line is that at age 18, guardianship or no, our severely mentally ill kids have the right to self-determine (an oxymoron in my opinion). Dir said the key is communication and cooperation between parents, child, and agencies involved. If all 3 aren't in place, it's a bumpy ride. thank you is of course about as cooperative as the weather. I'm anticipating he'll be on the street by spring. On a positive note though, he has developed social skills (kinda). For a kid who was ostracized by his peers by the end of 1st grade because of his behaviors, and spent the last 8.5 years living only with other difficult children, I'm really happily suprised that he has been able to form friendships outside of his current placement. When you look at the big picture - that's really amazing progress for him. I've been quiet lately because I'm struggling here with the whole process. A lot of self-doubt, could we have done something different/better? Have the last 13 years been a waste of effort? Is it hopeless for some of our kids given the severity of their illness? I'm trying really hard to truly believe that if nothing else, we did our best to give thank you a fighting chance, but I'm not there yet. I'm also beyond weary from banging my head against the brick wall that is my son. I've come to a pretty abrupt halt in terms of agressively advocating for him because he sabotages every darn thing I do and for all intents and purposes, time has run out. I guess I always thought he'd graduate (he won't) and be self-supporting (he may be someday, but .....). In a lot of ways, I've come full circle. When I joined the board almost 10 years ago, thank you consumed my every waking thought. I'm back there again - familiar territory I guess. ;) [/QUOTE]
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