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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 221059" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>Oh Witz!!! <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/Graemlins/rofl.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":rofl:" title="rofl :rofl:" data-shortname=":rofl:" /> I haven't been in charge of anything since... I don't know when. At least not effectively. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> Can I quote you? Please??? <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/Graemlins/rofl.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":rofl:" title="rofl :rofl:" data-shortname=":rofl:" /></p><p> </p><p>My hesitation in posting about our ongoing struggles with thank you is based on several things. The old-timers have "heard" me wring my hands for almost a decade now - it's old stuff, just regurgitated, you know? No question, I'm not nearly as crazed as I used to be about his junk but I can still work up a halfway decent tizzy. You've heard it all before. And I know what I need to do about it - detach, problem solve, accept, etc. Some stages have been easier than others. We're in a really tough one right now.</p><p> </p><p>I'm also afraid the newer members of the board might think I'm a hardcase because I've set some pretty specific limits on just how much I'm willing to push or advocate for him anymore. I simply cannot keep doing for him that which he refuses (and is perfectly able) to do for himself. Which ties in to probably the most important reason I don't post a whole lot about our situation anymore - I don't ever ever ever want anyone to feel there isn't hope. I may be too close to our situation but I can't say I feel terribly hopeful these days - but thank you has always been a very resistant kid. I don't think there is a norm but I would really hate for someone to read a vent of mine and think his case is typical. I think there are far more kiddos, like Busy's, who hit the mid to late teen years (or even earlier) and start to enjoy some stability and success. on the other hand, if I thought thank you's story was a good cautionary tale on what *not* to do, I would gladly share it - but I can't even say that. We did the very best we could, I can't see any major mistakes we made, he had access to a ton of services, and ... it is what it is.</p><p> </p><p>I hope that makes sense.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 221059, member: 8"] Oh Witz!!! :rofl: I haven't been in charge of anything since... I don't know when. At least not effectively. ;) Can I quote you? Please??? :rofl: My hesitation in posting about our ongoing struggles with thank you is based on several things. The old-timers have "heard" me wring my hands for almost a decade now - it's old stuff, just regurgitated, you know? No question, I'm not nearly as crazed as I used to be about his junk but I can still work up a halfway decent tizzy. You've heard it all before. And I know what I need to do about it - detach, problem solve, accept, etc. Some stages have been easier than others. We're in a really tough one right now. I'm also afraid the newer members of the board might think I'm a hardcase because I've set some pretty specific limits on just how much I'm willing to push or advocate for him anymore. I simply cannot keep doing for him that which he refuses (and is perfectly able) to do for himself. Which ties in to probably the most important reason I don't post a whole lot about our situation anymore - I don't ever ever ever want anyone to feel there isn't hope. I may be too close to our situation but I can't say I feel terribly hopeful these days - but thank you has always been a very resistant kid. I don't think there is a norm but I would really hate for someone to read a vent of mine and think his case is typical. I think there are far more kiddos, like Busy's, who hit the mid to late teen years (or even earlier) and start to enjoy some stability and success. on the other hand, if I thought thank you's story was a good cautionary tale on what *not* to do, I would gladly share it - but I can't even say that. We did the very best we could, I can't see any major mistakes we made, he had access to a ton of services, and ... it is what it is. I hope that makes sense. [/QUOTE]
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