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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 515930" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Jody, </p><p></p><p>It would be nearly impossible to tell you how you're going to feel, but I would suspect that the mere fact you are reaching out to people that you know who DO care about you? Is a sign that you do feel something, and there's nothing wrong with remembering, and mourning the Daddy that you used to have, and the one that protected you, and the one that loved you very much. </p><p></p><p>I think there are oddities in every family, and there is also mental illness, and pride - stubborn foolish pride. Some people live their whole lives until the end so cemented in their beliefs because of ONE event and it keeps them from a LIFETIME of other wonderful things. I've found over the course of many years - you can't do much to change people like that - try as you might. You can ONLY constantly be who you are, and be secure in who you are, knowing you did nothing wrong, and everything you could to keep a relationship going. Death often gives us a time to reflect on our regrets - when it should be our daily life that we take the time before we go to bed to say "Did I do everything I could today to be the best I could be? Yes, NO - Okay I'll try harder tomorrow, and move on from there and do so. </p><p></p><p>Wouldn't begin to tell you what you should feel in regards to the loss of your Father, estranged or not - but since you do have some wonderful memories of HIM, and this is his time to go and make his amends? I would remember the good things about him and be as joyful as you can. With regards to your Aunt and Uncle? It could go either way - you could have cousins that want to have a relationship or not. My thougth would be if you and they did? Wonderful - if they didn't? Their loss - the short time I've known you here? I've found you to be a wonderful, charasmatic, funny,caring person - and I also know that blood doesn't necessarily make a good relation. I've met nicer people here on the board than in real life - and ones I would miss more that I have never met should anything happen to them. More family than I was born into. </p><p></p><p>I am so sorry for the confusion on top of your sorrow today, but hopefully you will find some peace in these words and know no matter where you are in this world I'm sure your Dad has always loved you. How you choose to honor YOUR memories of him is up to you, not ANYONES perception of how you should, but just yours. </p><p></p><p>Hugs & Love</p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 515930, member: 4964"] Jody, It would be nearly impossible to tell you how you're going to feel, but I would suspect that the mere fact you are reaching out to people that you know who DO care about you? Is a sign that you do feel something, and there's nothing wrong with remembering, and mourning the Daddy that you used to have, and the one that protected you, and the one that loved you very much. I think there are oddities in every family, and there is also mental illness, and pride - stubborn foolish pride. Some people live their whole lives until the end so cemented in their beliefs because of ONE event and it keeps them from a LIFETIME of other wonderful things. I've found over the course of many years - you can't do much to change people like that - try as you might. You can ONLY constantly be who you are, and be secure in who you are, knowing you did nothing wrong, and everything you could to keep a relationship going. Death often gives us a time to reflect on our regrets - when it should be our daily life that we take the time before we go to bed to say "Did I do everything I could today to be the best I could be? Yes, NO - Okay I'll try harder tomorrow, and move on from there and do so. Wouldn't begin to tell you what you should feel in regards to the loss of your Father, estranged or not - but since you do have some wonderful memories of HIM, and this is his time to go and make his amends? I would remember the good things about him and be as joyful as you can. With regards to your Aunt and Uncle? It could go either way - you could have cousins that want to have a relationship or not. My thougth would be if you and they did? Wonderful - if they didn't? Their loss - the short time I've known you here? I've found you to be a wonderful, charasmatic, funny,caring person - and I also know that blood doesn't necessarily make a good relation. I've met nicer people here on the board than in real life - and ones I would miss more that I have never met should anything happen to them. More family than I was born into. I am so sorry for the confusion on top of your sorrow today, but hopefully you will find some peace in these words and know no matter where you are in this world I'm sure your Dad has always loved you. How you choose to honor YOUR memories of him is up to you, not ANYONES perception of how you should, but just yours. Hugs & Love Star [/QUOTE]
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