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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 339853" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Welcome!! I'm a little confuse, too.</p><p></p><p>But that aside, I'll give you my opinion which I hope you realize, might fit for and your loved ones or might not. We throw out ideas here and you can choose to try them or pass them by and no harm is intended.</p><p></p><p>First, I would recommend against removing the child from his mother's custody. He has had enough trauma in his young life and I think since the mother didn't contribute or allow it, it would probably only add more trauma to him to not have his mother. I would fight for having public agencies help the mother to take care of things like transportation. And advocate for an IEP at school so he can get extra supports there that he surely needs. I'm not saying that I don't understand this is a difficult situation or that the mother has been thru a lot and has a ton left on her shoulders, I just think that removing each of them from the others' life might contribute more to that and therefore, in my humble opinion, should be a last resort, especially at his young age. I hope the older boy who violated this child is not in the same home. If it turns out later on that this child starts doing things like intentionally trying to catch the house on fire or injure himself or another family member, then he might need a different placement (and probably would) in order to get more extensive help. I would go for in-home help at this point though. Again, that's just my opinion.</p><p></p><p>Secondly, read The Explosive Child by Ross Greene- it might help you and the mother a little in communicating with the boy and dealing with him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 339853, member: 3699"] Welcome!! I'm a little confuse, too. But that aside, I'll give you my opinion which I hope you realize, might fit for and your loved ones or might not. We throw out ideas here and you can choose to try them or pass them by and no harm is intended. First, I would recommend against removing the child from his mother's custody. He has had enough trauma in his young life and I think since the mother didn't contribute or allow it, it would probably only add more trauma to him to not have his mother. I would fight for having public agencies help the mother to take care of things like transportation. And advocate for an IEP at school so he can get extra supports there that he surely needs. I'm not saying that I don't understand this is a difficult situation or that the mother has been thru a lot and has a ton left on her shoulders, I just think that removing each of them from the others' life might contribute more to that and therefore, in my humble opinion, should be a last resort, especially at his young age. I hope the older boy who violated this child is not in the same home. If it turns out later on that this child starts doing things like intentionally trying to catch the house on fire or injure himself or another family member, then he might need a different placement (and probably would) in order to get more extensive help. I would go for in-home help at this point though. Again, that's just my opinion. Secondly, read The Explosive Child by Ross Greene- it might help you and the mother a little in communicating with the boy and dealing with him. [/QUOTE]
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