husband has been whining all day about how his feet hurt and how tired he is. He put in a 15 hour day at the football game yesterday. It IS hard work. When he worked it was not a big deal. He was tired but not extremely so. When he got laid off he planned to walk or run every day - walking until he got in shape enough to run. What is he doing NOW? Job hunt - 1-3 hours a day on the computer. I am being VERY generous. Play on the computer - 4-6 hours a day. Nap - 2-4 hours a day. Sleep - 11 to 7:30 and then 8:15 to 10. He also loads the dishwasher and MAYBE puts one load of HIS laundry into the washer and then the dryer. I am not able to sit or stand for long. I am working and increasing the amount of time as quick as I can. My doctor thinks I am pushing too hard. I want the house to be at least as tidy as it was a few days after the cleaner was here. If he has to load the dishwasher a second time he whines and moans and complains loudly. As he puts NO dishes in that are soaking or have gunk that needs to be wiped off into the dishwasher, the kitchen is a disaster. Jessica and I do dinner most nights. Not much because we are both in bad shape. IF husband does dinner he makes 5 baked potatoes for HIM, will heat up a burrito (frozen) for thank you and refuses to do anything for Jessica. Cause she can do it herself. Am I the ONLY one who sees a problem here? Every time I am vertical I pick junk up off the floor, put dirty dishes (not mine for the most part, but all of mine) into the dishwasher (after I unload it), and try to push a load of laundry in to where I can lay down and fold it. I want to cry each time I see the house. It was so nice. Now he refuses to put anything away. husband, I mean. The kids spread clutter. They are kids. husband NEVER asks them to put their stuff up. I am the only one, and since he sits and grumbles that they make too much noise they are caught in a bad place. I just told husband that HE is in charge of getting the kitchen CLEAN - including floors, counters, under the table and on the table. Every. Flippin. Day. He looked like I wanted him to wax his bikini area. We will see. I am making a list of what needs to be done. This may escalate into WWC (World War Cleaning) GRRRRRRRR. It is never a good idea to poke the bear.