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Why can't husband just let things go? Controlling over daughter's schoolwork
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 527261" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am sorry he is being unhelpful about this. this really doesn't sound like a good dynamic for hs relationshp with his child. I don't know what your dynamic is in the relationship, but have you considered telling him that you are taking over all school and homework issues and he is NOT going to do this because it is unhealthy for difficult child? It sounds like this is a big problem and for crying out loud, she is only 9. Maybe in late jr high or high school, but right now? This is NOT going to improve ANY issue. Has he read The Explosive Child? in my opinion he will not only never get her to do homework, he is going to make it so that she hates school and possibly even hates him. I know that sounds harsh, but it is the only outcome I can see for his approach. If he wants any type of relationshp with her once she is an adult, he needs to let this issue be one he stays out of unless he can change his approach. </p><p></p><p>This is only going to cause more problems for difficult child, esp in the self image area. It also is incredibly unhealthy, in my opinion. Are you able to go toe-to-toe with him and force him to not do this? Or maybe have her go to afterschool care or a tutor for all homework instead of going home to do it with Dad? This would be an issue that my husband would have to give in on, because I wouldn't tolerate it and would go ballistic if he persisted. I know too many adults who grew up with that and now hate school, learning and their parents.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 527261, member: 1233"] I am sorry he is being unhelpful about this. this really doesn't sound like a good dynamic for hs relationshp with his child. I don't know what your dynamic is in the relationship, but have you considered telling him that you are taking over all school and homework issues and he is NOT going to do this because it is unhealthy for difficult child? It sounds like this is a big problem and for crying out loud, she is only 9. Maybe in late jr high or high school, but right now? This is NOT going to improve ANY issue. Has he read The Explosive Child? in my opinion he will not only never get her to do homework, he is going to make it so that she hates school and possibly even hates him. I know that sounds harsh, but it is the only outcome I can see for his approach. If he wants any type of relationshp with her once she is an adult, he needs to let this issue be one he stays out of unless he can change his approach. This is only going to cause more problems for difficult child, esp in the self image area. It also is incredibly unhealthy, in my opinion. Are you able to go toe-to-toe with him and force him to not do this? Or maybe have her go to afterschool care or a tutor for all homework instead of going home to do it with Dad? This would be an issue that my husband would have to give in on, because I wouldn't tolerate it and would go ballistic if he persisted. I know too many adults who grew up with that and now hate school, learning and their parents. [/QUOTE]
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