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<blockquote data-quote="WSM" data-source="post: 314392" data-attributes="member: 5169"><p>Six weeks ago I left my husband and difficult child-stepson. difficult child didn't tantrum, he was just disturbed, but quietly, creepily, scarily so. You see movies about kids like that. And husband couldn't get it. He really thought/thinks if you coddle the kid, excuse him, make it easy for him, the difficult child will be so grateful and happy they won't do bad stuff any more. ANd then when it didn't work, husband would blow and rage at the kid. husband would either align with me against difficult child to align with stepson against me, depending on his mood--then 6 weeks ago there was a huge blow up after a day of husband following me around the house trying to start fights (my 19 yo son pointed out husband would often do it, try to start fights with me, and you know what, he's right). husband shoved me into the frig, I call 911, police took him, difficult child and stepdau out of the house and life has been good since.</p><p> </p><p>husband's playing games with court, but, life is so nice without them here.</p><p> </p><p>In fact, much to my surprise, I don't even miss stepdau...I'm worried about her--but resigned to the fact that she's fated to be damaged by that awful family. I try not to think about it, it would make me sad. It's best not to know what's going on. </p><p> </p><p>But all in all, life is so much better. </p><p> </p><p>If you have a job and activities and can support yourself, it sounds like you can get out, it's just psychological conflicts holding you back? I am not attempting to diagnose you, but if it's the case that you are worried about living alone, maybe you can rent a room in someone's house. Lots of people are renting out basements, suites or rooms to make extra money in this economy and you could move in quickly. Would that be an option for you? Maybe you can even rent a room and just escape there sometime when homelife gets too bad?</p><p> </p><p>In any case, I'm sorry you are dealing with this; it's horrible and overwhelming and I've been there and know.</p><p> </p><p>You will get out eventually, make it sooner rather than later. You can't imagine how much better it will be once you are gone.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WSM, post: 314392, member: 5169"] Six weeks ago I left my husband and difficult child-stepson. difficult child didn't tantrum, he was just disturbed, but quietly, creepily, scarily so. You see movies about kids like that. And husband couldn't get it. He really thought/thinks if you coddle the kid, excuse him, make it easy for him, the difficult child will be so grateful and happy they won't do bad stuff any more. ANd then when it didn't work, husband would blow and rage at the kid. husband would either align with me against difficult child to align with stepson against me, depending on his mood--then 6 weeks ago there was a huge blow up after a day of husband following me around the house trying to start fights (my 19 yo son pointed out husband would often do it, try to start fights with me, and you know what, he's right). husband shoved me into the frig, I call 911, police took him, difficult child and stepdau out of the house and life has been good since. husband's playing games with court, but, life is so nice without them here. In fact, much to my surprise, I don't even miss stepdau...I'm worried about her--but resigned to the fact that she's fated to be damaged by that awful family. I try not to think about it, it would make me sad. It's best not to know what's going on. But all in all, life is so much better. If you have a job and activities and can support yourself, it sounds like you can get out, it's just psychological conflicts holding you back? I am not attempting to diagnose you, but if it's the case that you are worried about living alone, maybe you can rent a room in someone's house. Lots of people are renting out basements, suites or rooms to make extra money in this economy and you could move in quickly. Would that be an option for you? Maybe you can even rent a room and just escape there sometime when homelife gets too bad? In any case, I'm sorry you are dealing with this; it's horrible and overwhelming and I've been there and know. You will get out eventually, make it sooner rather than later. You can't imagine how much better it will be once you are gone. [/QUOTE]
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