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Why do I let this woman get to me so much?!
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 611840" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I wonder what her reaction would be if you said, "I left the house that way just for you. I know how much joy you get from criticizing me and telling me how awful everything I do is. I thought this way you wouldn't have to work so hard to find something to criticize and you would get that special joy that the awful things you say to me brings to you. I really appreciate you dropping difficult child off at her new school this week, thanks! Gotta go, work to do. Bye!"</p><p></p><p>This works esp well if you say this in a cheery wayas though you have given her a gift that you just KNOW she will ADORE! Usually it leaves people somewhat dumbfounded and makes them think about their behavior.</p><p></p><p>I started using the technique on a few friends who kept trying to convert me to their religion because it was the only religion that you could have to go to heaven. I often offered to do more things that they objected to (like wearing nail polish or makeup or listening to music of any kind, or whatever) to give them more opportunities to pray for my soul as that seemed to give them great pleasure. Most were shocked and rather dumbfounded by my response to their fervent pleas to stop sinning and save my soul. </p><p></p><p>You mom will either be glad you agreed with her and not understand the implications of what you said, or she will stop and think about the possible consequences of her criticisms. Maybe. Of course the straightforward approach Star suggested is more open and likely to get a direct response, but sometimes the less direct route is helpful.</p><p></p><p>Just my thoughts, for whatever they are worth.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 611840, member: 1233"] I wonder what her reaction would be if you said, "I left the house that way just for you. I know how much joy you get from criticizing me and telling me how awful everything I do is. I thought this way you wouldn't have to work so hard to find something to criticize and you would get that special joy that the awful things you say to me brings to you. I really appreciate you dropping difficult child off at her new school this week, thanks! Gotta go, work to do. Bye!" This works esp well if you say this in a cheery wayas though you have given her a gift that you just KNOW she will ADORE! Usually it leaves people somewhat dumbfounded and makes them think about their behavior. I started using the technique on a few friends who kept trying to convert me to their religion because it was the only religion that you could have to go to heaven. I often offered to do more things that they objected to (like wearing nail polish or makeup or listening to music of any kind, or whatever) to give them more opportunities to pray for my soul as that seemed to give them great pleasure. Most were shocked and rather dumbfounded by my response to their fervent pleas to stop sinning and save my soul. You mom will either be glad you agreed with her and not understand the implications of what you said, or she will stop and think about the possible consequences of her criticisms. Maybe. Of course the straightforward approach Star suggested is more open and likely to get a direct response, but sometimes the less direct route is helpful. Just my thoughts, for whatever they are worth. [/QUOTE]
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