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<blockquote data-quote="sunxstone" data-source="post: 353462" data-attributes="member: 8297"><p>Yeah, difficult child's room has been stripped for about a year. He's got a mattress on the floor, a table with a tv on it and a fan. The toys he has left are in the closet. He urinated in his dresser along with hoarding food in with his clothes. He also urinated on most of his books/toys.. so those went too.. Now it's like he's not even trying to hide it. I found half the bun under the mattress, but the sandwich was just tossed in the middle of the floor. After three really nice, calm days where we talked and played, it's like he *wanted* to get in trouble. </p><p></p><p>So I said I'd take the computer away for the day.. but yeah it doesn't work.. he wanted on this morning and he still had an apple core in his bedroom floor, so made him pick that up, and he also passive aggressively will not put poopy pants in his hamper. He leaves them in the floor, and when I ask him to pick them up and put them in the hamper he balls them up and drops them back in the floor.. well last night he balled them up and *rubbed them down the wall*.</p><p></p><p> I just sighed and left it there and made him clean it up this morning before he logged on. He's just making more work for himself.. I mean.. I *make* him clean it up when he does this stuff, losing easy child is just the extra "ok what you did was wrong".. but you're right, its not a natural consequence so he's not connecting it at all. But the extra work of "come back here and do this the way you should have in the first place" isn't either. He hates being interrupted to clean up whatever mess he's made, but he keeps making the messes.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="sunxstone, post: 353462, member: 8297"] Yeah, difficult child's room has been stripped for about a year. He's got a mattress on the floor, a table with a tv on it and a fan. The toys he has left are in the closet. He urinated in his dresser along with hoarding food in with his clothes. He also urinated on most of his books/toys.. so those went too.. Now it's like he's not even trying to hide it. I found half the bun under the mattress, but the sandwich was just tossed in the middle of the floor. After three really nice, calm days where we talked and played, it's like he *wanted* to get in trouble. So I said I'd take the computer away for the day.. but yeah it doesn't work.. he wanted on this morning and he still had an apple core in his bedroom floor, so made him pick that up, and he also passive aggressively will not put poopy pants in his hamper. He leaves them in the floor, and when I ask him to pick them up and put them in the hamper he balls them up and drops them back in the floor.. well last night he balled them up and *rubbed them down the wall*. I just sighed and left it there and made him clean it up this morning before he logged on. He's just making more work for himself.. I mean.. I *make* him clean it up when he does this stuff, losing easy child is just the extra "ok what you did was wrong".. but you're right, its not a natural consequence so he's not connecting it at all. But the extra work of "come back here and do this the way you should have in the first place" isn't either. He hates being interrupted to clean up whatever mess he's made, but he keeps making the messes. [/QUOTE]
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