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Why is life so hard for some of us?
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<blockquote data-quote="everywoman" data-source="post: 255934" data-attributes="member: 1436"><p>You know honestly, I don't even question why. I think often we see parents of easy child's and we think they have it so easy, but the truth is your problems in life are really relative to your perception of your life. If a parent of a easy child doesn't get an A---for them it may be as devastating as when my difficult child got arrested. It doesn't bother me for them to complain about their problems----in fact, I can have empathy. I also do not hide difficult child's problems from the world anymore than I hide his and my easy child's accomplishments. I think that shame hides in secrets, and I am not ashamed of anything I have done.</p><p></p><p>Raising my difficult child has never been easy. I have had to make some really tough decisions because of the choices he has made. I get down sometimes. But I am also extremely thankful for what I do have. I am thankful for the good in difficult child. I am thankful that difficult child has me for a mother---because any other woman would have lost her mind long ago dealing with him. </p><p></p><p>My life, in fact, has never ever been "easy." I knew early on that the only person in this world that I could rely on was me---and knowing that---and understanding that my control of what happens extends only to me---has helped me muddle through. </p><p></p><p>I also believe in a loving Creator who doesn't dish out punishments but does allow for free will. He is strong enough to understand if I get really angry at him for allowing those in my life to practice that free will. And that unconditional love is one that I model in my life.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="everywoman, post: 255934, member: 1436"] You know honestly, I don't even question why. I think often we see parents of easy child's and we think they have it so easy, but the truth is your problems in life are really relative to your perception of your life. If a parent of a easy child doesn't get an A---for them it may be as devastating as when my difficult child got arrested. It doesn't bother me for them to complain about their problems----in fact, I can have empathy. I also do not hide difficult child's problems from the world anymore than I hide his and my easy child's accomplishments. I think that shame hides in secrets, and I am not ashamed of anything I have done. Raising my difficult child has never been easy. I have had to make some really tough decisions because of the choices he has made. I get down sometimes. But I am also extremely thankful for what I do have. I am thankful for the good in difficult child. I am thankful that difficult child has me for a mother---because any other woman would have lost her mind long ago dealing with him. My life, in fact, has never ever been "easy." I knew early on that the only person in this world that I could rely on was me---and knowing that---and understanding that my control of what happens extends only to me---has helped me muddle through. I also believe in a loving Creator who doesn't dish out punishments but does allow for free will. He is strong enough to understand if I get really angry at him for allowing those in my life to practice that free will. And that unconditional love is one that I model in my life. [/QUOTE]
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