I get so upset that DH will always seem to listen to other people's suggestions on how to deal with DD, yet when I tell him exactly the same thing, he won't accept it at all? It happens ALL the time with everything, but it upsets me the most when it's advice about DD. He met this new person and supposedly she has studied ASD for three years (and I say this with much snide in my voice, I've met this woman and she just seems quite bossy and know-it-all-y). He was kind of like OMG she told me to do xyz and it seems like that will be so good. Um, yeah, I have asked you to do xyz for years. The other thing that upsets me is that these people out there want to "help", but want to do it in their way, no matter what we tell them. They always think they know SOOO much about ASD. This person DH met didn't think DD had ASD because she was so social. Um, yeah, good generalization for somebody who is so "educated" about the subject. I just don't know what to say to this woman. On one hand it's great that DH is listening to somebody, but the fact he won't read the books I bought him, read about ASD on the internet, or do anything I've asked him to do upsets me. A couple days ago she (the new friend) was over at the house and we were talking about temp agencies with my newly adopted college kid (a GFG that is a daughter of a friend, we're putting her up for a semester) and the new friend said she turned in her resume and didn't get a call back, assumed she was overqualified. I had to smash her high and mightiness by telling her all of 26 years that no, she wasn't overqualified, that there isn't enough people in the temp industry that are overqualified and we have a hard time finding qualified temps at my work. I had to knock some humility into that girl.