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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 614851" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>I think it was <em>excellent</em> advice. These are <em>his</em> adult children, and it is <em>his</em> interactions with them that seems to be bothering you - as well it should. "Coping" is not how you have a happy marriage. Putting each other first is how you have a happy marriage. Your counselor is telling you that the best thing that you can do in this situation is to create new boundaries within your marriage. These are adults we're talking about here, so it's time for your husband to let them be adults. Sometimes he is going to slip, but he has to start making a conscious effort to put you before them and it is going to cause some <em>real</em> chaos with them. If he can <em>try</em>, you can feel more objective when he works through and improves issues with them.</p><p></p><p>It's not easy. It's also the only way I know of to deal with issues with adult offspring whether they're both of yours or not. There comes a time when we stop being parents to children. He has to want that as much as you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 614851, member: 99"] I think it was [I]excellent[/I] advice. These are [I]his[/I] adult children, and it is [I]his[/I] interactions with them that seems to be bothering you - as well it should. "Coping" is not how you have a happy marriage. Putting each other first is how you have a happy marriage. Your counselor is telling you that the best thing that you can do in this situation is to create new boundaries within your marriage. These are adults we're talking about here, so it's time for your husband to let them be adults. Sometimes he is going to slip, but he has to start making a conscious effort to put you before them and it is going to cause some [I]real[/I] chaos with them. If he can [I]try[/I], you can feel more objective when he works through and improves issues with them. It's not easy. It's also the only way I know of to deal with issues with adult offspring whether they're both of yours or not. There comes a time when we stop being parents to children. He has to want that as much as you. [/QUOTE]
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