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<blockquote data-quote="mrscatinthehat" data-source="post: 87934" data-attributes="member: 2063"><p>In our state in order to get a difficult child child into an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) you have to go through dhs. Those are the folks that come to the house. As we have a long standing case they have the "right" to drop in at any time to do a spot check etc. Also they gave us a new in home transition type worker that comes to the house. We have had other in home workers.</p><p></p><p>As their policies change and oh do they change they change how many people come to the house. Our regular case worker does not always come to do home visits. The last person that came was so exceptionally judgemental it was horrible. I was accused of neglecting easy child because we are remodeling. Of course when the next person came to inspect they said she was incorrect and it was dropped. </p><p></p><p>However it is not just those folks that treat us crappy. As I said so many of the people we work with think because dhs has placed the kids with them (again the only way to have them placed) that something is wrong with us. I know there is not but I think these folks sometimes need a reminder.</p><p></p><p>I don't understand why it is that we have to get our mental health help or children by going this route but it is the way it is. I just don't have to be treated like <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/2012/censored2.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":censored2:" title="censored2 :censored2:" data-shortname=":censored2:" /> because I didn't really have a choice. We did what needed to be done for our kids and continue to do so. Which is also another problem a lot of these folks have. Most parents that go this route seem to walk away around here so they can do what they want. We haven't and we expect to be involved. </p><p></p><p>In truth because of where they are they are considered to be in foster care and because of how long they have been there if they got a wild hair they could terminate our rights. </p><p></p><p>The whole thing is wrong but if the kids see these people treat us this way the other thing is how do they think they can treat us?</p><p></p><p>It is a very long difficult thing (and I do discuss it at length with my own counselor). Sorry if it was confusing just trying to point out to some folks something that should be obvious. May not even give it out. But it does make me feel better.</p><p></p><p>Beth</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mrscatinthehat, post: 87934, member: 2063"] In our state in order to get a difficult child child into an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) you have to go through dhs. Those are the folks that come to the house. As we have a long standing case they have the "right" to drop in at any time to do a spot check etc. Also they gave us a new in home transition type worker that comes to the house. We have had other in home workers. As their policies change and oh do they change they change how many people come to the house. Our regular case worker does not always come to do home visits. The last person that came was so exceptionally judgemental it was horrible. I was accused of neglecting easy child because we are remodeling. Of course when the next person came to inspect they said she was incorrect and it was dropped. However it is not just those folks that treat us crappy. As I said so many of the people we work with think because dhs has placed the kids with them (again the only way to have them placed) that something is wrong with us. I know there is not but I think these folks sometimes need a reminder. I don't understand why it is that we have to get our mental health help or children by going this route but it is the way it is. I just don't have to be treated like :censored: because I didn't really have a choice. We did what needed to be done for our kids and continue to do so. Which is also another problem a lot of these folks have. Most parents that go this route seem to walk away around here so they can do what they want. We haven't and we expect to be involved. In truth because of where they are they are considered to be in foster care and because of how long they have been there if they got a wild hair they could terminate our rights. The whole thing is wrong but if the kids see these people treat us this way the other thing is how do they think they can treat us? It is a very long difficult thing (and I do discuss it at length with my own counselor). Sorry if it was confusing just trying to point out to some folks something that should be obvious. May not even give it out. But it does make me feel better. Beth [/QUOTE]
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