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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 88075" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I know almost how badly this hurts. We had an investigation by DHS (our CPS) due to the abuse my difficult child gave my Jessie. Jessie needed treatment, we took her to the doctor. The doctor HAD to report the abuse, and who did it. I am very glad the doctor followed the rules. It in no way kept us from getting treatment for Jess, and maybe by following the rules will help someone else. </p><p></p><p>The DHS case worker convinced my daughter that it was allher fault she got abused. If she had just done everything her bro told her he wouldn't have abused her. (very very angry about this, even the principal who sat in complained about this!)</p><p></p><p>They were very judgemental and no help at all. </p><p></p><p>The psychiatric hospital my son was in for 4 months was completely used to parents who dropped kids at the door and walked away. Parents who drove over an hour each way 3 or more times a week to visit and do therapy were alien to them. It took quite a while for them to clue in to the fact that I would show up when I said I would. And that I was to be consulted before ANY changed in medications were made.</p><p></p><p>It is an unfortunate fact that MOST of the time the providers and CPS are involved the family is in crisis, and not willing to do what the child needs. </p><p></p><p>Maybe a more bridge building method could be used? It grates, but maybe something small to remind the workers and your child and caseworker that you love your child and appreciate the time they take to keep you informed? I have had to <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/2012/censored2.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":censored2:" title="censored2 :censored2:" data-shortname=":censored2:" /> it up and do this many times.</p><p></p><p>Of course, in some situations it was necessary to give reminders (gentle or not so) that I am the MOM and the one to listen to, that I WILL be consulted, or heads will roll.</p><p></p><p>I wish you peace from these judgemental idiots!</p><p></p><p>Susie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 88075, member: 1233"] I know almost how badly this hurts. We had an investigation by DHS (our CPS) due to the abuse my difficult child gave my Jessie. Jessie needed treatment, we took her to the doctor. The doctor HAD to report the abuse, and who did it. I am very glad the doctor followed the rules. It in no way kept us from getting treatment for Jess, and maybe by following the rules will help someone else. The DHS case worker convinced my daughter that it was allher fault she got abused. If she had just done everything her bro told her he wouldn't have abused her. (very very angry about this, even the principal who sat in complained about this!) They were very judgemental and no help at all. The psychiatric hospital my son was in for 4 months was completely used to parents who dropped kids at the door and walked away. Parents who drove over an hour each way 3 or more times a week to visit and do therapy were alien to them. It took quite a while for them to clue in to the fact that I would show up when I said I would. And that I was to be consulted before ANY changed in medications were made. It is an unfortunate fact that MOST of the time the providers and CPS are involved the family is in crisis, and not willing to do what the child needs. Maybe a more bridge building method could be used? It grates, but maybe something small to remind the workers and your child and caseworker that you love your child and appreciate the time they take to keep you informed? I have had to :censored: it up and do this many times. Of course, in some situations it was necessary to give reminders (gentle or not so) that I am the MOM and the one to listen to, that I WILL be consulted, or heads will roll. I wish you peace from these judgemental idiots! Susie [/QUOTE]
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