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<blockquote data-quote="ksm" data-source="post: 549751" data-attributes="member: 12511"><p>well, things were calm for a little while... but then lost it when we told her (and easy child) that we would take them to youth group instead of riding with a friend and her parent. They were leaving early, and we were just sitting down to eat. All we said was we would take them (difficult child and easy child) to the church after we ate. Well difficult child, lost it. there was yelling and screaming and stomping and screeching, and crying. She said she wasn't hungry so why did it matter if she rode with friend instead of us. Then it was... I hate living here. I wish I was dead. etc etc. After the meal (difficult child was upstairs crying) I took easy child to the church... and then came home. </p><p></p><p>After she had calmed down enough to talk, she started talking about how much she hates school, has no friends (except BFF) no one to sit with at lunch, etc. I really hurt for her but it is hard to even know what is real and what is overstated. Later, I even asked her if things were are as bad as she expressed and she said she didn't know. She admitted she probably exaggerated parts. Anyway, she is unwilling to talk to the school counselor. Sounds like some girls she knew from 8th grade is calling her ****/*****/b!tch. Another girl wouldn't let her set at the table she had been sitting at at lunch. She has been to the school nurse twice this week with headaches/stomach aches. She isn't even sure if she would tell the therapist we see about all the things she said to me.</p><p></p><p>I tried to explain that maybe the girls are a little "put off" by her clothing choices.... that it doesn't look as appropriate as I would prefer. And I am guessing that seeing someone dressed as she was may have given others the little push for making some of the comments. She wore a strapless top with a ribbon that was sewn on the front and tied around the neck. Tight jeans. High heels. oh, and over the top make up. Except for the top (which I had asked her not to wear unless she had a jacket or shirt over it) each thing would have been fine. But the overall effect left a lot to be desired. The high heels were bought for church and dressy school stuff. The jeans look fine with a big top or sweater over them. But all together... yuck. </p><p></p><p>Then she complains about never feeling comfortable, always self conscious, etc. Then why would you keep putting tegether horrible outfits? Most girls wear jean shorts that are usually a couple inches above the knees and a tshirt. She picks the shortest and tightest things she can. Then wants to pair them with heels! She is basically a good kid. School is a little bit of a struggle. But socially it has been hard. She is so pretty when she looks more natural. I am not just saying that because she is my granddaughter... she really is beautiful... but her attitude and mood takes away the positive things. </p><p></p><p>I will talk to the therapist - but it won't do much good if difficult child won't. KSM</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ksm, post: 549751, member: 12511"] well, things were calm for a little while... but then lost it when we told her (and easy child) that we would take them to youth group instead of riding with a friend and her parent. They were leaving early, and we were just sitting down to eat. All we said was we would take them (difficult child and easy child) to the church after we ate. Well difficult child, lost it. there was yelling and screaming and stomping and screeching, and crying. She said she wasn't hungry so why did it matter if she rode with friend instead of us. Then it was... I hate living here. I wish I was dead. etc etc. After the meal (difficult child was upstairs crying) I took easy child to the church... and then came home. After she had calmed down enough to talk, she started talking about how much she hates school, has no friends (except BFF) no one to sit with at lunch, etc. I really hurt for her but it is hard to even know what is real and what is overstated. Later, I even asked her if things were are as bad as she expressed and she said she didn't know. She admitted she probably exaggerated parts. Anyway, she is unwilling to talk to the school counselor. Sounds like some girls she knew from 8th grade is calling her ****/*****/b!tch. Another girl wouldn't let her set at the table she had been sitting at at lunch. She has been to the school nurse twice this week with headaches/stomach aches. She isn't even sure if she would tell the therapist we see about all the things she said to me. I tried to explain that maybe the girls are a little "put off" by her clothing choices.... that it doesn't look as appropriate as I would prefer. And I am guessing that seeing someone dressed as she was may have given others the little push for making some of the comments. She wore a strapless top with a ribbon that was sewn on the front and tied around the neck. Tight jeans. High heels. oh, and over the top make up. Except for the top (which I had asked her not to wear unless she had a jacket or shirt over it) each thing would have been fine. But the overall effect left a lot to be desired. The high heels were bought for church and dressy school stuff. The jeans look fine with a big top or sweater over them. But all together... yuck. Then she complains about never feeling comfortable, always self conscious, etc. Then why would you keep putting tegether horrible outfits? Most girls wear jean shorts that are usually a couple inches above the knees and a tshirt. She picks the shortest and tightest things she can. Then wants to pair them with heels! She is basically a good kid. School is a little bit of a struggle. But socially it has been hard. She is so pretty when she looks more natural. I am not just saying that because she is my granddaughter... she really is beautiful... but her attitude and mood takes away the positive things. I will talk to the therapist - but it won't do much good if difficult child won't. KSM [/QUOTE]
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